Rainbow is my favorite color

As a little girl, I didn’t understand why I had to choose one or the other. Why couldn’t I do it all and like everything and everyone? When someone asked me what my favorite color was, I couldn’t choose one so I said, “Rainbow!” I didn’t want any colors to feel left out. Was I left or right-handed? Um, neither... both! What’s your favorite this-or-that? I never knew and usually just picked something random to satisfy the questioner.

As time went on, I became the questioner. Why did people think and act a certain way? Why did I think and act a certain way? Who am I and what am I supposed to do now?

As I dive into the basic traits of Libra and Virgo, I notice many similarities in myself and these zodiac signs, but I connect more with some than others. Since I was born right on the cusp of Libra and Virgo, I often find myself struggling internally with emotions and decisions. I’m grateful to be who I am because I’ve grown into my mind. It hasn’t been easy over the years and I’m learning about myself every day. I have an insanely busy mind, new ideas all the time, and express them through creativity and ingenuity.

It’s not my first time searching for reasons why I am the way I am. Whether your sun sign is Libra, Virgo, or another, seeing basic traits laid out in front of you causes introspection. What truly resonates with you? Which traits don’t and why not?

According to most books and websites, Libras are all about balance and diplomacy, have a need for justice, a strong charisma, and an idealistic outlook on life. They are also very non-confrontational, indecisive, vain, and self-pitying.

Virgos are hard workers, creative, kind, patient, and reliable, while also very critical, over-thinkers, picky, stubborn, and uptight.

Each of these traits are prevalent in my life. Yes, even the “bad” ones.

The Balance of Libra vs. The Creativity of Virgo

The most beautiful combination of traits between the two signs are balance and creativity, which compliment each other wonderfully. As an artist, a writer, a musician, a chef, a mother, and home-maker, I couldn’t have asked to be born at a better time than in between Libra and Virgo.

Creativity craves balance and balance expresses itself with creativity. My lifestyle calls for both ingredients. Art, music, writing, and cooking can all be done with a recipe and practice, but the best stuff has that little something extra. It takes a lovely balance in spices and creative presentation in a meal, warm and cool colors in a painting, quick and slow rhythms and tempos in songs, and the short and long sentences in a paragraph to really capture the eyes, ears, tastebuds, and mind of another.

As a mother and home-maker, balance and creativity in a schedule really help me stay focused and on-task. I tend to write down what my day entails in the morning with my coffee and breakfast, as well as have a set schedule for nap times, meals, dog walks, chores, work, and creative times. Each day is different and I do struggle to find a balance in personal and family time, but a basic schedule is a life-saver for me. Creative structure is important for learning and developing minds, while balance in work and leisure lead to a healthy mind.

Every Virgo’s A Critic, Every Libra Wants Peace

Four traits intermingle quite a bit in my life lately: Virgo’s critical, over-thinking nature and Libra’s diplomatic need for justice. There’s always been a constant push and pull in my mind and heart for what’s right. A deep need for social justice and the hard truth that peace is unattainable on a massive scale have plagued me throughout my time on Earth.

When the pandemic began last year, confusion and chaos were rampant. Over the past four years of the truly disturbing over-reach of political power, no justice or peace for the people in America, and the widening divide in mindset within families and communities, this conglomerate of traits have just destroyed and rebuilt my mental well-being.

How I crave to see justice for the victims of police brutality, the victims of sexual assault, and the women, men, and children who’ve been hurt by someone is comparable to a nagging chest pain that is always present. There’s literally nothing you can do for a chest pain but wait for it to subside, knowing it’ll probably kill you in the end.

It’s hard to be diplomatic towards family, political figures, and people in the spotlight when some of their opinions are so drastically wrong in my eyes, although I tried in the beginning. Many humans are close-minded, self-centered, and greedy. I’ve wanted nothing more than to understand and love them despite our great differences. I want peace, yet I over-analyze every experience and critique words and actions harshly. The only way I’m able to sleep at night is the strong belief that karma catches up to everyone eventually.

Whether you believe in a specific God or Goddess, a multitude, or none at all, I bet you can think of a time when you made a decision that hurt someone, and also a time when you got hurt. It’s the balance of life and the justice of our own realities. I love it, but fear it and absolutely make my daily decisions based on it.

When Kindness, Patience, Reliability and Idealism Work Together

Relationships are like plants. They need a tender touch, time to develop, reoccuring sustanence, and the belief that everything will work out in the end. Of course, it takes two entities striving for the same goal to succeed. As the plant strives to grow big and produce, the gardener must also strive for the plant to grow big and produce, thus creating a lovely relationship that will thrive.

However, if the gardener takes the fruit before it’s ripe, she has thrown the relationship out of balance. It’s no longer about working toward the same goal, it’s about one side’s wants and needs. The same is true to the Libra/Virgo cusp with human to human relationships. There must be a balance of kindness, patience, reliability, and an outlook of positivity to maintain a wholesome relationship.

Through trial and error, I’ve come to seek out others who believe this way too. I’ve removed people from my life who are opposite of these four qualities, and grown stronger with people who support this way of thinking. This is the sacred type of relationship I’m so lucky to share with my partner. We grow together through ups and downs and have created so much beauty together.

Too Stubborn To Talk About It

One of the biggest obstacles I struggle with is confrontation. I used to absolutely dread it, then I was promoted at my job and had to confront employees and customers daily. I learned so much from this experience, but I do not miss it.

I’m stubborn, I’m picky, I’m a perfectionist! But I don’t want to tell you the way to do it. Everyone has their own right way, and who am I to demand a different performance?

As my employees’ leader, I wanted to lead by example. That meant working hard while still being “the fun” boss. I love talking to people and being social, as well as talking about myself. Vanity and charisma go hand-in-hand for a Libra, and the key to combat this is listening. Listen to your peers, family, friends, and coworkers as much as possible. Life does not only revolve around a Libra, though it may seem so at times.

The Week of Darkness

My most undesirable traits are always lurking in the darkest crevices of my mind, and they love to emerge from time to time to wreak havoc on my precious, happy, balanced life. When my hormones are the lowest in the fourth week of the month, loathesome self-pity, enraging indecisiveness, and a drill-Sargent-like uptightness love to come out and play.

The first step is acknowledging the problem. My mind likes to play tricks on me during this period, so much so, that I call it my week of darkness. I rest and relax as much as possible, resetting for the next month of life. I’m ashamed to say, I don’t hide my pain and self-pity well from my family, as much as I try. The good news is I’m recognizing more and more how my actions and thoughts will project how my day goes. Everyone has those hard days when you think it can’t get worse, and unfortunately for Libra/Virgo cuspers and their craving for balance, you can’t have really good days without having really bad days, too.

So if you’re like me, on your bad days, snuggle a puppy, read your favorite blog, eat the dankest food, and remember that tomorrow’s a new day.

We Are Unique and We Are The Same

Being a human is hard. Trying to fit yourself in a box is hard because we are so multifaceted and experience has shaped our perceived reality. Zodiac signs may feel similar to you or not, but looking inward helps you make sense of yourself and humanity. I was born in Libra on the cusp of Virgo and balancing darkness and light seems to resonate with me the most. I see my truth for what it is and each day is an opportunity to learn more, excel in consciousness, and tend to the lightest and darkest parts of myself. Even if you don’t “believe” in the Zodiac signs, what does it hurt to open your mind to new possibilities? After all, you don’t have to choose just one favorite color.