Questioning

On asking.

By Snarky LisaPublished 8 months ago • 3 min read

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Some say it’s always best to ask questions when one is unsure of something. After all, it’s best to go into a situation with knowledge on how to fix it than to blindly hope that things will magically improve based on a risky solution.

Others, on the other hand, believe that it is better to stay quiet more. While they may not necessarily condemn the art of asking questions as a whole, they will look at the overly inquisitive with ire. To them, asking only works when done wisely.

Who’s right, though? Is going to someone for help good, or could it create more problems than it solves?

Like many things…it’s complicated.

Please note that I am not a licensed psychologist or psychiatrist. If you are going through a serious mental health crisis, I encourage you to seek professional help if possible.

I also cannot fully guarantee that the advice provided by this article will be able to aid you. Nonetheless, I hope this piece can be of at least some use.

Can You Think Your Way Through It?

There are basic hassles which can easily be resolved by just using one’s brain. These may vary person to person, but they typically consist of basic tasks like daily hygiene.

Instead of just slacking off, perhaps one could actually attempt to use some brain power and think critically. This way, one doesn’t have to resort to asking seemingly stupid questions or scourging other sources for information.

Also, some questions are just things that shouldn’t be asked. For example, questioning someone’s sexuality or romantic orientation could lead to very awkward situations if the person hasn’t come out of the closet yet or isn’t comfortable talking about it. Besides, what use would that information be to you, anyways?

Is Research Possible?

Sometimes, all it takes to find out how to perform a task is a little bit of research.

We live in a world where it’s often easy to discover so much information right at one’s fingertips. This is through a vast network of devices called the Internet. No matter what search engine you use, all it might take to try and resolve something is to search your question up.

Of course, one does have to be careful with finding reliable information. Not everything online is accurate. However, cross-referencing sources and carefully inspecting content can be useful.

Now, it’s very well possible that your problem can’t be solved through a quick online search. Maybe you have no way to access the Internet at the moment. Perhaps your issue is too obscure for there to be much, if any, data in cyberspace related to it.

In these kinds of scenarios, you may be lucky enough to find a book or brochure somewhere offline. If you can’t or if that’s far too impractical, though…it might be time to ask questions in real time.

Just Ask

Should you really not be able to solve a problem on your own, it’s probably time to ask around.

Like with media and online sources, people do have varying degrees of reliability. Unlike the former, however, it can be harder to tell if someone is trustworthy. When it comes to cases involving confidential details, things can also get complicated.

That being said, you may have no other choice but to ask living humans if you wish to gather a solution to an otherwise unsolvable problem. In these kinds of scenarios, loved ones like family, intimate partners, and friends could be helpful.

Even then, though, be careful to verify. Does the advice make sense? Do the tips contradict each other? If not, you could be on the path to a resolution.

Depending on what circles you run in, you may find yourself ridiculed for daring to ask a question. Don’t take it personally. It’s better to look dumb than to actually be dumb and make the worst possible plan to solve a problem.

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Questions are important in making the world go round. But sometimes, they can result in backlash.

Any other thoughts on this? Let me know in the comments!