Professional Advise During Hard Times.

While working hard physically ensuring people that it takes patience and planning to go through stressful times, I have also decided to share some thoughts through the incredible vocal website. I truly hope at least one or two of the things you read here; could help you in some ways. First thing I would tell you is that YOU ARE LUCKY!!!, Why you ask? Well, you have what billions of people are using their every breath looking for. Having a partner is the ultimate team that should be able to defeat all problems.

There is an absolute reason behind relationship pyramid, these steps define and build a relationship; messing up with the order, could cause many issues on top of existing ones from your daily life. During these unfortunate times I understand that many people have a rightful stress and negative thoughts that keep their mind busy to their own. What happens is that due to overthinking and stress; your patience level goes to 5% if not 0%.. While being stuck with your partner at home, any bad habit can cause an argument. Understanding where all this comes from, allows your mind to be open to solutions typically.

Many advice to keep your habits to remain sane, I would really suggest to use this free time to your advantage. We are forgetting that time is something that we won't get back. I understand that staying at home is not the most wonderful vacation; however, learning new things with your partner is the most amazing way to create bonds that many would dream about. My recommendation is to come up with at least 3 to 5 new things to experience together. Start learning new recipes, challenge each other to who could come the closest to perfection. Be fair and honest, challenge each other’s good sides! we all know that we can locate the bad or weak sides too quick unfortunately, but please only focus on the sides you would like to see grow, after all you are in a partnership; that means growing together 50/50.

• Challenge your partners memory through gaming, movies, tv shows etc.

• Board games are definitely recommended.

• Watch cooking shows such as Master Chef, get motivated to cook and learn new dishes.

• Learn how to make healthy cookies.

• Painting together and framing it!

• Workout together.

• Learn new languages, push each other with challenges!

• Watch FRIENDS all over again, that can't go wrong, can it?

• IF you can afford; buy tickets to your typically “expensive” but now “cheap” locations.

• Order food from 5 never before tried restaurants.

Use the time you have been forcefully given to bond on levels not possible before. Provide each other the need of confidence and motivation. By lifting each other’s spirits you will achieve so much more when this is over than you would off without it, the last thing you want is to have zero energy while your family and job will need you the most. It could only go uphill from here. Be ready for when it does, patience will help you get there much faster.

Around mid-April towards the 20th; I would recommend to start planning ahead, hopefully if things open up again by May if not then June, you will have a hard time going back to “normal” life. Planning ahead will allow you to stress less since you know its coming.. Remember, we didn’t plan for chaos so it is hurting; however, we can plan for the what we would do after things get back to “normal”.

The last thing I would like to discuss is to remind you that regardless of your beliefs, time is ticking. Remember to at least evaluate yourself, your relationship and help your partner to do the same. Not having parents or grand parents that would typically judge you or reminding you of your bad decisions, doesn’t mean you are off the hook. We are no different than a hardware built system. Once in a while, you have to review each section and update if not remove what shouldn’t be there or replace what could be replaced. Create a better version of you and upload it to you, by believe that you are worthy. You have the authority and power to do that, no one else could or will.

Dr. Negini