Only you understand yourself

If the water in the vase is not changed frequently, even the most beautiful flowers will soon wither. The only way to keep the flowers fresh is to change the technique frequently. The freshness of flowers is the same as the purity of our body and mind. What method should we use to make our body and mind clean? The answer is: talk to your inner self.

Indeed, too much mental pressure, too much work intensity, too lazy attitude to life make our heart always tired. When we see something new, we can no longer stir up the waves in our hearts, we don't care to try it again, and we don't get sad about the sad things, much less surprised by the happy things. If you deal with everything, you go with the flow. Life doesn't begin, you just go with the flow and live one day at a time.

We always want someone to sit down in the bustling world and quietly listen to our hearts, but unfortunately friends are always hard to find. "If everything hangs on, Fu Yaoqin, the string breaks who listens?" A deep friendship with Yu Bo Ya seems to be a far-fetched dream. What's more, "knowing people's hearts", your mind is likely to become a laughing stock in the mouth of others, so we feel even more depressed.

In fact, you have missed the point - you are your own best confidant! Who in the world can know yourself better than you? Who can keep secrets better than you? The ancient Greek university scholar Antisthenes once said, "The greatest thing I have gained from philosophy is the ability to talk to myself." When your mind is tired, it's time to take a break from the hustle and bustle of life. Let your mind retreat into your soul, quiet your mind to listen to your inner most voice and ask yourself: Am I happy with my life right now? Do I want to be who I am now? Why do I feel so bored? Do I still want to pursue achievements at work? Am I overwhelmed or buried by life? What have I gained and what have I lost? What regrets will I have if my life goes on like this

As the saying goes, the best time to talk to your inner self is when you are alone. Let your mind retreat into your soul, quiet your mind, sort out your thoughts and state of mind, listen to your inner most authentic voice, and accept your most complete self at this moment. This will give our restless minds a sincere settling, you will find your truest self, and then faster into the role of life, living a nourishing and interesting life.

A woman wrote a best-selling book and suddenly became a "celebrity". Wherever she goes, there are many.

People were after her, some wanted her autograph, some took pictures with her. After that, many of her friends couldn't find her anymore. Defeat

The phone was always off, and no one answered the landline at home. Some people said she was deliberately pretending, and others said.

She said she forgot all her friends when she was famous and rich, still no news.

Finally, one day, she took the initiative to call her friend, and the friend who received the call said, "Where have you been? Did you go on vacation abroad? Or did you have too many interviews and a full schedule?" She mysteriously told her friend, "I haven't been anywhere. I've been talking to myself at home. When faced with sudden fame and fortune, I was increasingly unsure of what I wanted. I needed to think calmly about what was wrong with me

Peace of mind is an asset, and it takes peace of mind. Just like a famous female writer who doesn't let the glory of her head push her into the crowd. In front of fame and fortune, she still chooses to return to herself and give herself a space to be alone. This is the maturity that has settled down in life, a kind of calmness, a strong self-control. It also gives her a tranquil heart, away from a lot of complicated impatience, making her richer inside. To talk to your mind, it is important to learn to let go. When your brain is in a state of confusion and you are not thinking clearly, clear your brain's "memory" in time. Our brains, too, are constantly being bombarded with information and filled with competing ideas. When the space is full, it will gradually become dull and forgetful. The only way to make room is to empty the brain.

Have you ever had the experience of cleaning? When packing box after box, you'd be surprised at how much stuff you've accumulated in the past; I regret not taking the time to organize and weed out some unnecessary stuff beforehand, so much so that I'm so tired that I can't even straighten my back. Simple things contain a profound philosophy: one must always clean up and eliminate unnecessary things so as not to carry a heavy burden in the future. If you still can't understand it, let's read an interesting story first.

A young man came a long way to see a wise man. He was carrying a large package and was exhausted.

Panting, he said, "Master, the hard work and exertion of the long journey could not hold me back, nor could the various trials.

It scared me. But why am I always anxious and miserable because I cannot find the sunshine in my heart?"

The wise man looked at the young man's luggage and asked, "What is in your big package?

"This is too important to me." The young man replied, "It contains not only the necessities of my life, the gold and silver jewelry I collected along the way, but also my exertion and loneliness, the tears and pain when I was injured during the long journey ......"

After listening, the wise man calmly asked, "Must you carry the boat on the way after crossing the river?

"Carry the boat to the front? Why?" The young man looked at the wise man in confusion and muttered, "Besides, the boat is too heavy for me to carry

"You only know that the boat is important and useful when crossing the river. When you cross the river, you put down the boat. Why don't you think of that burden as well?" The wise man asked.

It dawned on the young man. He dropped his burden and felt as relieved as if he had thrown away a stone. He found himself relaxed and happy, and his pace was much faster than before. In the story, because the young man was carrying so many burdens, he placed his mind like a warehouse without a comfortable place to land, leading to anxiety and restlessness.2 Later, because he had discarded those things and left some space for his mind, he was instantly relaxed and happy.

If you often feel heavy and tired in your life, be honest with yourself and check whether you are carrying too many worthless and unnecessary things. For example, some things have been long past, but from time to time they flash in your mind and stir up waves in your heart; successes, failures, pains and worries are deeply hidden in your heart, always making yourself carry invisible shackles; constantly pursuing many things - status, power, wealth.

Take stock of what you have now, throw away those extra burdens, old fears, old chains, let go of anything you "don't deserve" to carry, forget about things you shouldn't remember, including worry, frustration, defeat, depression, stress, and so on. You will find that your mind will be freed from entanglements, ties, and the need to be in a carefree state.

In a carefree state, outside distractions will not affect you, and you will live a more relaxed and faster life.