Online Dating

Being a single mom is hard work but definitely a joy like no other. It gets hard balancing working full time and being on mom duty as soon as your first job ended. Obtaining that level of happiness and incorporating a new person into for the longest time just a duo is another obstacle in itself.

I have been single for almost four years now. Briefly dated someone but too many differences on what I wanted in life and what he wanted made me realize I just shouldn't settle. I deserve to find someone to grow old with; marriage or not. My daughter deserves to have a possible father figure that can be there for emotionally when my father or brother can't.

Currently on a dating site which I had been on prior but nothing came of it. I did the usual deleting the app, giving it some time and then hoping ok maybe this time will be the time I find my best friend. Four months later I have only found one person that seemed promising out of the hundreds of swiped right I've received. As sweet as he was his hygiene was the issue when we met in person.

Now let be me very clear with this. I don't need or want someone that is the best looking man physically. I want someone that I find attractive and someone who is well rounded. Someone that is cultured and aware of what's going on in the world. A man that can hold a conversation and can keep me interested without the physical attribute. When did wanting something simple like this become so hard to find?

As much as dating sites are intended to be a positive there are a lot of people on there that you would never probably talk to in person if you met at a bar or a club. Online dating definitely provides a secureness one is able to project out through their profile. You really can be someone online you normally wouldn't be out in public and all from the comfort of your own home.

On my profile I am very specific as to what it is I am on the dating site for. I also advise them in my bio section that I am a single mom, we are a package deal and if that doesn't work then swipe left. I have received many odd requests in a vulgar nature that involve being propositioned for money. Men have offered to send me money to send them nudes. Or sometimes a little odd thing such as them wanting to video chat while I do my makeup. I am on this dating site in hoping to find that one. Due to COVID things the last year really have put a damper on the hopeless romantic I am.

As the months pass by I realize that it is very rare for someone to have and yearn the same things I do from the opposite sex. I want to "settle" for someone that has a good inner core to them. Someone that is kind, and has good qualities. That can handle situations that may not always work out in his way. Someone that no matter how upset we might be with each other we will still communicate in a constructive manner without it having to be a verbal attack on one another. I want to find someone that wants to be a bestfriend, husband, and father. Until then, no settling.