On Marriage and Love -- How can a woman marry Love

Today's year of the dog December 24, may be the best day of the year, although the circle of friends is narrow, the new couple is not less than ten pairs, the same age has been holding beauty back, shrink into the marriage of the turtle shell, I feel lonely, the world silently walk slowly, alone, alone, walk alone, this article, comfort me!

Qian Zhongshu once said, marriage is like a besieged castle, like a golden cage, those outside want to rush in, those inside want to rush out. It is well said that marriage is the tomb of love. Dare to ask - what exactly is marriage?

Do you see in nature, except human society, other species, there is no marriage? So, marriage is a unique product of human society, so what is the role of marriage? Apart from the ethical definition, marriage is nothing more than an institution designed to regulate the order of reproduction! But do you need marriage to reproduce? In the whole process, the male often acts as god, opening the valve and releasing hundreds of millions of "little men" to compete with each other. The female acts as the earth, nurturing all life. In this process, you don't need marriage to reproduce, but society needs, society needs order. As the most important part of human metabolism - reproduction, of course, must be orderly, from this point of view, marriage is necessary.

Some people disagreed, saying, how can you tie marriage and procreation together? There are many people getting married today and not having children! Yes, marriage exists in economic, religious, emotional forms as well as sexual and intimate ones. In ancient China, most men married to increase their labor force, while women married to find a living support. As the folk saying goes, "Marry han, dress and eat". In addition, Japan is also a good example. But marriage is, by instinct, largely about finding a legitimate sexual partner (at least for most men), and some would argue that sex is not about procreation either. In fact, the essence of sexual intercourse is to reproduce, and contraception is the result of the rational command of human behavior, the pleasure of sexual intercourse is nothing but the power endowed by nature, or reward, or temptation. What makes us different from other species is rationality, which allows us to reap the rewards of sexual pleasure without the responsibility of reproduction, whether we agree with it or not, but that's what it is!

Human society is in different stages of development, the form of marriage is not the same. Coming from the ancient clan society, polygamy, polyandry, monogamy, are still controversial, but most people think a husband and a wife as a sign of a civilized society, so, Chinese experts to flaunt in our country have entered the civilization society, denying that in ancient China is polygamy, say what a husband and a wife concubine, then ask an expert to answer, According to today's definition of marriage, wasn't the concubine and the man in ancient times a marital relationship? Apart from the difference in family status, is there any difference with his wife? Up to now, there are still countries that are polygamous or polyandrous. Just a few days ago, China estimated that there would be 30 million bachelors in the country with a serious gender imbalance. So some so-called experts proposed to allow polyandry.

Back to the question of whether marriage is a human necessity. A well-known person said: there is no marriage between the opposite sex couples also lack a sense of shared destiny and responsibility! Then married people must share the same fate? Husband and wife is the same as the forest bird, disaster looming their respective fly, and the marriage broke into enemies head broken and bleeding cases emerge in endlessly, today reported three, five Ming daily. Famous philosophers Sartre and Beauvoir were lifelong partners without marriage, and there are countless other famous people who were not married. If extremely fit into all aspects of both men and women, have highly rational and contract spirit, for their marriage, but a piece of paper, a dc, if both parties do not agree with, or too many differences in the nature, have marriage will not work, the trumpets oneself to marry love stars, and in a few years, derailed marriage, not to let a person smile to head off!

In today's China, especially in rural areas, a lot of people at a young age in a shell of into marriage, even a good part of less than 20 years, three years in two years, or because of old woman daughter-in-law relation cause relationship problems, or because of couples caused her mother-in-law contradictions, or both, let a person betray oneself in short time, and eventually spread. How to spread, one part is no marriage certificate, even if there is a marriage certificate, but also is to spell two forces, break up the two sides of the home each call two teams of people, although rarely start, but momentum can not lose, after a war of words, lose the party was defeated and fled to admit that unlucky. Few of these young people succeed in their first marriage, and gradually it becomes a matter of child's play among them!

Speaking of love, love is an enduring topic, an eternal theme of the human spiritual world, but what exactly is love? Different people have different views on love. I think love comes from the attraction between the opposite sex, and then they know each other and stay together. Between the opposite sex mutual attraction is a wonderful phenomenon, some say people tropism of beautiful things, some say, I was too agree with you, I began to crush on female students from elementary school, did not have sex is what thing, say tropism of beauty, as if also appears the one-sided, the results from the intrinsic attributes of things, some, magnetic field, and describe two people to not call! So the opposite sex should be on the basis of attraction to understand each other, not to see each other, in the bosom of the decision to accompany. However, once you decide to be together, you must accept each other for all their faults. As the master of ceremonies at the church said, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health... The so-called spirit of contract, not only indicates the written and oral contract, but also the spirit and ideological level does not easily identify a person, once identified, lightning will not move, fire and water will not invade.

However, after all, it is difficult to know each other, especially in this era of full swing, people like boiling water, Yang soup can not stop boiling, kettle bottom difficult to draw salary. So there are same sex friends, a long time, brother, or we together!

In general, marriage is not necessary for individuals, for society is the axis of order is indispensable!