My parents asked me to marry another guy knowing about my serious relationship

I started dating my partner one and a half years ago. Ever since I have met him I was sure that he is going to be the man I want to marry in the future. We lived together in a city away from home working on our daily jobs and stuff. Our life was normal until the pandemic.

I was been called home after the news of the coronavirus spread and so was he. Since then real problems started.

My parents wanted to have a talk with me regarding marriage, but I was ignoring them because I knew it was going to be an unhealthy conversation. My parents have never been cool about LOVE MARRIAGE especially if it’s inter-caste or inter-religion. My boyfriend and I both are Hindu, but we belong to different castes.

Yes! I know it’s quite confusing for you to understand castes. Let me break it for you. India has 2000 different types of castes, each belonging to a specific religion. My caste is Maratha hence I belong to the Hindu religion. In the same way, my boyfriend is Hindu yet he resides in a different caste.

I wasn't prepared for this conversation. I was scared. I mean how do you tell your not-so-open-minded parents about your serious relationship. The one thing they never wanted me to do in life yet ironically it's happening.

I gathered courage and spoke to them. Their reaction was expected. They denied my proposal and asked me to break up with him. I tried convincing them every day “please I can't imagine my life without him, he is a suitable companion for me”. Yet they grounded me instead of understanding. My phone was taken away. I had no means of communication.

One day when this situation was on the urge my parents started crying requesting me to stop the stupidity and get married to the guy we suggest. “We have a good reputation in society please don't bring it down,” said my dad. I was shaken to the core, The decision of choosing my own partner is directly proportional to their reputation. HOW?

I was in pain, I developed severe anxiety. I wasn't ready to give up on my love. I wanted to try harder to convince them. Every day we had small fights, dissatisfaction, and pressure living under the same roof. Nobody was ready to understand. We had negative energy and thoughts affecting us for 4 straight months. Everyone was stuck with their opinions. I didn't want to take the help of relatives or friends because my parents wouldn't like it if this issue is discussed with anyone else.

Even after all these struggles, I was introduced to a new guy through proposals every two weeks. Once a wealthy and well-educated Rhista (proposal for arrange marriage)knocked at my door. My parents considered it a perfect match for me. They Invited his family for lunch. This was the first proposal that was being negotiated deeply.

when a meeting is arranged between two families for marriage related talks then its considered to be at initial stage, both the parties give their opinion on whether they approves the proposal or deny it.

Even after saying NO quite a few times, I was tortured to meet the guy. So I did.

I was drowning in the water. I wanted to run away from this mess and never look back. But never had the guts to do so. I always felt it wrong. As if I'm weak to handle the situation.

I prayed to the universe begging to grant my wishes.

After few passing days, my dad gets a call. The guy which came with arrange marriage proposal clearly said NO. I was filled up with joy. After a long time, I felt that okay there is a ray of hope. Let's stick with the possibilities.

TiMe HeAls EvErYtHiNg

I was always an admirer of this quote “time heals everything”. So I decided to give one last try to convince my parents. I gathered all the courage again and said “I will only marry my boyfriend if you can't accept it then I must leave you forever”. That sentence of mine shredded tears from their eyes.

One day daughter has to leave her parent's house, If she leaves with rage and hate she will never be happy. I guess my parents understood the depth of my love for someone.

“My dad said Okay. If you love him so much which you proved since the beginning so you shall get married to him”.

WHAT??????? Is this true? I couldn't believe it. I was not able to speak a word, tears rolled down my cheeks. My happiness had no end. I hugged my dad and mom so tightly and thanked them infinite times.

I never imagined my parents to be unhappy in my marriage. I wanted everyone to contribute their happiness to that beautiful day of my life.