My Ex Talks To Me And Then Ignores Me (Why Did My Ex Reach Out Then Disappear)

If you have recently experienced a breakup, you may be wanting to get back together with your ex. And if so, you are probably wondering how to answer the question "does my ex want me back?" There are certainly signs that you can watch for. Be sure, though, that you are not seeing something that isn't there simply because you want to. If the signs really are there, you should also be aware that there are a couple of possibilities as to why the signs are showing. Your ex may really be interested in you, and may really want you back. But a word of caution - unfortunately, there are a few out there who are simply playing games. This is not the general rule, but it does occasionally happen, so just be aware of it.

So, what are some the signs that your ex wants you back? These can take many forms, some obvious, and some that are not so obvious.

The most obvious sign would be that your ex simply tells you straight up that they want to work things out. As obvious as this sounds, this is not necessarily something to take serious if it happens right after the breakup while emotions are still running high. There is no time limit, as this varies with everyone. But if this is an immediate reaction after a breakup, it has probably not been thought out well and should be approached with at least some caution.

However, if some time has passed and both of you have had some time to think, it is certainly encouraging when your ex simply tells you outright that they want to get back together. There are some relationship experts that say guys are more likely to do this than girls. Guys sometimes are more blunt, while women can be more subtle. This difference, real or perceived, really does not matter much to the question at hand. If your ex tells you, after some time has passed, that they want to work things out, chances are very good that you can.

Another fairly obvious sign that your ex wants you back is that they continue to send text messages or otherwise stay in touch. It may not be a phone call or text message, but a comment on your MySpace or Facebook page, or a note to say they were thinking of you. Again, these signs are fairly obvious, and like the paragraph above, these signs are generally more positive if some time has passed since the breakup.

A less obvious sign that your ex may want you back is that he or she will try to find out how you are doing through mutual friends or acquaintances. If your ex is repeatedly asking about you, or wanting to know if you've asked about them, and particularly if they are wanting to know if you are seeing anyone else, it's a good sign that they are still interested in you.

And of course, coincidences do happen, but how often can your ex "accidentally" run into you? Now, if you work in the same building, it may be common for you to bump into them regularly. But if they "just happen" to be in places they know you are going to be on a regular basis, chances are they are still quite interested in you, and may very well want you back.

Pay attention to how they act when you do "accidentally" run into them. Does he or she look at you like they did when you first met, or early in your relationship when it was new and exciting? Are they obviously trying to impress you in some way when these "coincidental meetings" happen? Is he or she dressed nice, do they have a new hairstyle or something similar? Does the conversation move to "how things could have been?" Are they apologetic about something they may have done which contributed to the breakup?

All of these things can be signs that mean Yes to the question of "does my ex want me back? " There are others, certainly, but these are some of the common signs that your ex may want to get back together with you. So pay attention, use a bit of caution, do not rush headlong back into things, and take time to learn how to put your relationship back together in a way that will allow it to succeed.

The Best Way to Get Your Ex Back - Two Golden Rules

Is there a "best" way to get your ex back? The answer is that there is a best way in your own particular case, but there's no "one size fits all". You have to figure out what your best way is and that all depends on a number of things that applies to you and your ex.

Probably one of you walked out, or at least was the main instigator of the split. If it was you, then does that make it easier to get your ex back? Or more difficult? If it was your ex who initiated the separation then was it because of something specific that you did, or was it your general demeanor over a period of time?

Take some time to sit down and think hard about this. Shut off everything else - no interruptions. It may be difficult, but you must do this, and do it as dispassionately as possible. Don't hurry. Gradually visualize yourself back with your ex, but not as you were before the split, rather as you will be, having put the split behind you.

Think backwards from this stage. Given your distinct personalities, the nature of your relationship before and after the split, and the circumstances in which you are each likely to be living in the immediate future, what is the most likely path to a reconciliation?

Now you can take into account the first of these two golden rules of seeking to get your ex back. This rule is that, whatever action you take, it must be, and be seen as, perfectly natural, as if there couldn't really be any other outcome but that you and your ex would get back together again.

One essential ingredient of this rule is that you must on no account display weakness. Never plead with your ex to return, or say that you can't live without them. To do so means, in effect, begging your ex to return for your sake, so you are happy again. By definition, this disregards what your ex wants or is feeling. What about them? How will a reconciliation benefit them? Will they be happy?

To be natural, getting your ex back must be as a result of your ex coming to want that as much as you do. This cannot be forced in any way.

The second golden rule is this. You have to keep your self respect and also do your best to make sure that your ex keeps their self respect as well. This is a highly charged, possibly volatile, emotional time, and it's easy to make a mistake you'll come to regret.

So don't do anything in a hurry. Always think things through carefully. That's not to say, necessarily, that you should take a long time in reacting to a new development, but you should concentrate on thinking clearly and focus on your longer term objective of getting back with your ex.

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