Marriage: Is it worth it?

Let me preface this by saying that I am no love guru. I am no expert in the area of love. I only have 1.5 years of marriage under my belt. What I do is how I have become better because of my wife. That led me to think about marriage as a whole. There is a spectrum of beliefs regarding marriage. That is is fine.

As a Christian Pastor, I learned the meaning of marriage under what the bible says, including the roles between husband and wife. But, many of us have our definition of what marriage is. So, I learned what it is like to be a great husband, and there were questions that I found myself answering.

Why are you getting married?

Some reasons would make it okay to go your separate ways. It starts before the proposal and the wedding. Why do you want to get married? Does the person make you happy, or are you just tired of being lonely? Your reason can determine how you handle your marriage.

Marriage opens up new levels that you have not seen before. You would have to be ready to handle what comes your way.

Are you growing in your relationship?

Your significant other is not only there to have a good time but to help you grow. To make you become a better friend, significant other, and leader. I believe that it is through challenges that you endure that can help you grow. If you can learn from it, it can help you in your relationship.

The support you get and the support you give becomes the bridge to moments that can help growth and development into a healthy relationship. Marriage is not easy, but it is worth it if you are willing to put in the work.

How can I be better?

I dont know about you, but I have seen people get in relationships where they used their signifcant others. They treated them like they were something less than a person. Their life choices becomes a hinderance to the person they love.

In some way, you should answer the question about wanting to be better. Like a job, improving your skills to do your job better is the same with a relationship. Your weakness will start to appear more clearly when you are in a relationship. You will have to determine if you want to work on it or keep how things are.

Marriage is a beautiful thing, but it is also a challenging thing. It takes preparation, time, and patience. It is no longer about you; it becomes about how you can support someone else.

There are moments I feel that I am not doing a great job. I feel that I am failing as a leader, but most importantly, as a husband. There I times I get the vibe that I am not listening to my wife's needs. Maybe it's because guys are just not good at catching on. Perhaps I have been independent for so long that being dependent on someone is difficult.

Through the challenges, I figured more about myself and utilized my changes to make my relationship better. I had to sacrifice some of myself to make things work. I found it a struggle, but I reflected on these questions.

By reflecting on the questions, helped me figure out what I wanted more. I wanted my marriage to work. I wanted to support my wife in ways that I could. Marriage is not always a happy moment. If you can get through the tough times together than it makes the great moments worth it.