Lu Xun's "Death": Don't overestimate love, don't despise yourself

Liang Shiqiu said: "A marriage based on love is an unparalleled happiness in the world."

A pair of lovers have the same heart and make a promise to accompany each other for a lifetime. No matter what age, it is a beautiful picture.

But love and marriage are not the same thing after all.

Love is romantic, marriage is fire, rice, oil and salt, love pays attention to heartbeat, and marriage needs management.

In Mr. Lu Xun's only love novel "Sad Death", he wrote such a sad story from love to marriage. The hero and heroine died and the other was injured, so it was called "Sad Death".

After reading this novel, I have to sigh:

It turns out that the common mistake people make is to overestimate the power of love.

Giving up everything for love, planting the seeds for tragedy

Juansheng and Zijun are both talented and beautiful, and they both like to discuss literature. After being alone and widowed together for a long time, love gradually develops.

After six months of dating, Zijun confessed to his parents that he fell in love with Juansheng and wanted to be with him.

But in that era, marriage was about the words of the matchmaker and the orders of the parents.

Zijun's family disapproves of her and Juansheng's affairs. Zijun, who can be carried away by love, believes that his parents are stupid and do not accept new ideas.

So she decides by herself, determined to stay together with Juansheng.

"I am mine, and none of them interfere with my right!"

This brave declaration also completely touched Juansheng's heart. He clearly saw the independent appearance of women. Under this feeling, he also played the trick he learned from the movie, kneeling down on one knee and asking Zijun proposes marriage.

This kneeling, Zijun also became excited, his face became crimson, ashamed like a bride.

After that, the sweet and brave men and women who were full of expectations for a new life decided to break the world and live a new life together.

They decided to live together.

Because of this decision, Zijun completely fell out with his uncle, who threatened to have no such niece, and her parents far away in her hometown also believed that she was a corruption and a disgrace to the family.

On Juansheng's side, he also broke up with a few friends who were loyal to his ears, and the two of them began to enjoy this clean two-person world.

Juansheng borrowed a sum of money, rented a house and bought furniture. Zijun sold his only two pieces of jewelry and happily started a new life.

We often say that love is a matter of two people, but marriage is a matter of two families.

A marriage without family support is doomed to be a castle in the sand, with unstable foundations and helpless isolation.

Some people say that you don't have to marry someone your parents approve of, but you must be careful with someone your parents oppose.

When faced with love, girls in the world often lose their minds. When they suffer, they realize that they regret it, but it is irreversible.

Only love can't support real life

After living together, life was good for a while.

They have an independent space, they can talk sweetly, and they can chat with each other.

During the newly-married Yan'er period, Zijun gradually became lively, his face became more rosy, and he became slightly fatter.

It can be seen that it is not unreasonable to drink enough water.

Zijun put aside his image of a young literary woman and began to learn to cook. He raised a little oily chicken and fed a dog. He was busy with housework all day. I didn't even have time to chat with Juansheng.

After a long time, Juansheng noticed the change of Zijun.

She stopped talking about literature, reading and walking, her hands were getting rougher, her image was getting sloppy, all her focus was on running the house, and she was also caught in a fight with the landlady.

Juansheng felt sorry for her hard work and always said that she wanted to hire a maid, but she was unable to live because of her financial constraints.

In the early days of their cohabitation, the days were still beautiful and peaceful, and that was their sweetest time.

But life is always cruel, and beauty and peace often don't last. Because of others' reports, Juansheng lost his job, and his source of life became a problem. The young couple, who was not well-off, immediately fell into the shadow of darkness.

In order to make ends meet, Juansheng decided to translate the manuscript and contacted the editor.

But there was never a quiet place in the house for him to think about work. He looked at the table full of dishes and ate Zijun's water-style meals, but his heart became more and more irritable.

He felt more and more that Zijun was not as considerate as before, always interrupting his thoughts and affecting his work.

Soon, they even had a problem with food and clothing. They were leftovers every day, and sometimes they couldn't even get enough to eat. Zijun stewed the fried chicken and let the dog go, because there was no food to raise.

Following the change, there was also Zijun's face, a miserable feeling gradually appeared on her face, but she didn't say anything.

The atmosphere at home was getting colder day by day, Juansheng decided to go outside to find a place, and soon he found that the library was a paradise, quiet and warm, which could give him a quiet space and let him start new thinking.

Sure enough, Juansheng thought about a truth about life: the first is life. People must live, and love has beauty.

He suddenly felt that Zijun was a burden to him and a roadblock that hindered his development. Although he felt guilty, the idea lingered.

This cohabitation house has long been unable to make Juansheng feel happy and quiet, but instead is like a cage, locking Juansheng's infinite future.

Finally one day, he showed off to Zijun, talked about their separation, talked about the future road, and also persuaded Zijun that separation is very beneficial to her, and she can get a new life without worry.

After hearing these words, Zijun's face changed suddenly, as if she was dead. She had no words, only endless silence.

Poor Zijun, life was so poor and cruel, she never complained about Juansheng, never regretted her decision, just wanted to give everything she had to create a home for Juansheng.

But she didn't expect that in Juansheng's eyes, she had already become a burden.

Zijun overestimated the power of love and underestimated the cruelty of life.

She doesn't understand the reason why poor and lowly married couples grieve in every way and go their separate ways when disaster is imminent.

Don't overestimate love, don't despise yourself

The sad and desperate Zijun, after being silent for a while, suddenly left, quietly, without leaving a single word.

Juansheng's manuscript was published, and he began to walk towards the new life. He felt a little lighter in his heart, but was annoyed at the same time.

Why did you tell Zijun those real words, why not just lie to her for a lifetime, after all, they loved each other.

And the thing that made Juansheng despair was still to come. After Zijun returned to his hometown, he became depressed and actually died.

Zijun actually died, her death was naturally inseparable from Juansheng, Juansheng felt guilty and regretted, but to no avail.

We can imagine Zijun's situation. At that time, despite her family's objections, she was determined to marry Juansheng, but in the end she was abandoned.

She returned to her hometown in despair. Under the circumstances at that time, the cynicism and spit from outsiders were enough to kill her. A woman who was originally lively and lovely died just like that.

Some people say that Juansheng is simply a scumbag, but it's not always true. In that situation, when his own survival is a problem, talking about love is an extravagant hope.

It can only be said that Juansheng is a selfish and cowardly man who dares to promise but dare not bear it. In the face of suffering, he only cares about himself.

Mr. Lu Xun is just exposing a man's truest thoughts, allowing us to see the dark side of human nature and gain insight into a man's most despicable heart.

Zijun's era is an era where the old and the new alternate. She has new ideas and dares to pursue new love, but at the same time, she also inevitably guards the old ideas, and feels that it is her mission to marry her husband and teach her children.

Therefore, she didn't understand Juansheng's reminder, and didn't understand Juansheng's disappointment with her. She had long forgotten that they were a pair of soulmates.

After losing Juansheng, Zijun fell into self-torture again. If she could look at this relationship and analyze the reason, she would not die because of it.

At any time, do not overestimate the power of love. People are unpredictable, and sincerity may not be exchanged for sincerity.

At the same time, don't despise yourself. Life is the most precious wealth. It is stupid to die for love.

Once you give up your ego completely, you will lose your original brilliance and charm and become a dull person.

In Juansheng's eyes, Zijun lost his original cuteness little by little and became a stranger.

No matter what kind of relationship you are in, yourself is the most important thing, and the most taboo is to burn yourself and fulfill others.

Don't overestimate love, don't despise yourself, in this world you can really rely on yourself, in the end.