Love is a snob

Love has always been an expensive luxury. There are often people who sigh for it: I am lucky to have it, not my life. It is not necessary to say that the negative state; say helpless sigh, but not quite. The ultimate is that it is an everyone is talking about, and everyone wants to have, but there is no fixed form and the only standard of goodies.

The fact is that you can't find a lot of people who are not in a good position to get a good deal of money. Without love, marriage even if there are few quarrels, no betrayal, for the heart has been longing for the love of the throbbing, but also a desperate infinite desert land.

The longer you stay in this "desert", the more intense the desire for love "green state", and even for this has been stationed in the heart of the green state to reach the point of fire, thus making some outsiders look ridiculous actions.

For example, a few days ago, a 61-year-old woman infatuated with 43-year-old actor Jin Dong a video, triggered tumultuous feelings among netizens, and for this reason, also launched a heated discussion. Although the male protagonist of that event is a fake Jin Dong, the 61-year-old mother paid true love is real, she likes Jin Dong is also sincere, but unfortunately, the age gap between them the difference, identity of difference, so the netizens once mocked the mother is mental abnormal, delusional, etc.

She said "Jin Dong" would not only buy her a house but also give her a huge sum of money of 1 million. She also had to divorce her partner "Jin Dong". The woman decided that this was her love and even left home after a big fight with her family.

Love, really can cross the age "gap"?

We all know that the so-called "cross-year love" refers to the age difference between men and women in the teens or even dozens of years. This big gap can collide with the "true love" spark.

Some people call this kind of inter-year love, jokingly as "adolescence hit menopause". The point of view that you want to express is nothing more than a comical joke. However, there is no shortage of marital combinations of this kind of inter-year love in life.

Take this year's National Day and Mid-Autumn Festival double celebration of the "beautiful talk", the chairman of China's largest gold mining company Zijin Mining and 38-year-old M&A dealmaker married, the bride herself declared at the wedding site: married to love. She said: "True love can cross and break through the boundaries of age".

In this regard, the majority of netizens do not buy it. The more unified opinion is: break through the age of inter-age love marriage, the glue is not a bright atmosphere of love, but the money to make, is a trade-off between the interests of each take what they want.

Although, none of us can be truly empathetic to others who experience, normal thinking and emotional supply and demand are much the same.

This is also a relatively rational part of the people, once sunk in the "cross-year love" depth of thought in the main reason. The most important thing is that it is not worthwhile to have a widely respected combination of marriage and romance. This is because the disadvantages of the combination outweigh the advantages.

We'll start by talking about the reasons for the combination of cross-genre romance, roughly divided into two kinds.

One, based on the lack of childhood fatherly or maternal love

The majority of them have an unhappy childhood, whether growing up in a single-parent family or a two-parent family and are the kind of children who have not experienced being loved by their parents in their hearts.

So, after growing up, this desire to be loved "dream" is invariably transferred to the body of the object of marriage. This is often referred to as the Oedipus complex or Oedipus complex, onlookers see it as a childhood lack of love to compensate for the psychology. But the people involved, take this love as love to pursue.

Second, based on the poor family of origin, poor people are usually afraid of security will be attributed to the possession of money

Children who lived in poverty when they were young grow up wanting a life of luxury more than anyone else. They know more about how hard it is to live without money than children who grow up in ordinary families or even rich families.

So, when they grow up the choice of marriage object to the material look very important like we often say the fishing women and soft rice man, for them, no money means no security, and this rich security is what they need most urgently.

We are clear that inter-year love is considered from the point of view of physical needs, or the appearance of the natural laws of human nature is lost.

The basic physiological needs of a couple are not only respect for humanity but also a very important factor in enhancing the couple's feelings and maintaining the stability of their relationship. And for the couple's combination of inter-year love, perhaps the first few years are barely together, but if the marriage is a sacred, lifelong relationship to treat, then, after many years of irresponsible name and who should bear it?

Also, a man in his prime with an older woman, a woman with the right charm with an older man, if such a combination you must say because of love, then, unless the older one is economically inferior to the younger one, perhaps convincing everyone that your love or affection is really because of love.

The two sides of the economic strength of the two people do not lose each other, such a cross-over love will also let everyone believe that your mouth is labeled married to love.

It's a pity that the majority of those who are in love across the years are the older ones who are wealthy and then marry the younger women (married to the younger men with the average economy).

If the inter-year love is because of the lack of love from childhood to compensate for the psychology, then, such people deserve sympathy. If it is for profit, there is nothing to be ashamed of, just, please don't use love as a cover. There is no shame in loving money.

For this kind of marriage combination, Zixi would like to say: anyone can "think beautiful", but not anyone can, therefore "dream come true". A person's lack of fatherly or motherly love as a child is not a love that can be compensated for by finding an older partner when you grow up, and parental love cannot be replaced by anyone.

To get love in the future, the smartest thing to do is to find a person of the same age who loves each other and enjoys the love between men and women, otherwise, when you make up for the lack of parental love in childhood, you also missed the age of enjoying love with a bang, at that time, your real love and who should go to you to make up for it? )