Love Comes at First Sight or in Time ?!

Love at first sight or in time? A flame that ignites and burns you suddenly or a flame that ignites slowly and burns smoldering, but still strong?… We are all impressed by the love stories at first sight: deep secret and he knew from that moment… he knew it was He / She "! So romantic…

A story that sounds like this, but: "They had known each other for some time, they were meeting other friends and, one evening, they realized that there could be something more between them, that in time something had lit up" no It looks just as romantic!

Love at first sight or love in time?

Love, at first sight, is romantic because it is idealized - by the two lovers and by those who hear their beautiful story. But the drama, the romantic, often does not resist the trial of life - when the two suddenly wake up in reality, where their ideas and dreams do not resist, the somewhat ordinary life can leave them disappointed… They started a fairytale story and ended up in real life…

Love in time, which grows once you know each other better and realize that you want a relationship together, is down to earth! You are more realistic, less tempted to dream of perfect relationships, because you know who you are involved with, you know you have to take it easy and work on a relationship. This is usual - because you happen to lose your temper and dream and when you realize that you have fallen in love with someone you know!

Love at first sight, no matter how devastating, does not offer knowledge! You have absolutely no idea who you fell in love with, no matter how obscure you feel, even an inner certainty that "you know him/her"! You feel like you see his soul and you think that's all that matters!

But you are blinded - what happens, psychologists explain, is that the subconscious mind recognizes something familiar in the person you suddenly fall in love with - a physiognomic feature, a voice, a smell, even a certain way of looking or smiling!

All of these are deeply ingrained in your brain and are related to a person from your early childhood - a person who offered you love (parents, nannies, siblings, other relatives). Now, a certain subtle quality of the stranger you fall in love with makes you, without realizing it, identify this stranger with the person who offered you love! And so you want from this love…

On the other hand, even if it seems a little trivial, love in time offers knowledge and certain security - go on a familiar alley, do not venture with hope in the dark! You have known the person, you have had some time to see and analyze them, you know something about him/her and his / her life, you know if there are things that could connect you…

True love does not only involve that sudden feeling, that emotion strong - it can be born at once, but it takes time to grow and mature. And only when she has reached adulthood can you know her, you can consider her true, you see her as she is: like a child - how much she is a baby, how irresistible she is, how small she is, how cute she is, how crazy she is as a teenager, but of only when he is mature does he become completely what he is! And a love matures in years - before a year, no matter how sure you think about the shared feelings, love is just a baby!

Love, at first sight, is born of an attraction - and attraction, especially physical attraction, is by no means a guarantor of love and a relationship! No sense in telling you now - I don't wanna ruin the surprise. All you need is the one next to you, his eyes and his touches, his kisses, and his caresses!

But you do need a lot more - over time, physical attraction decreases, passion subsides - and what matters is what remains between you. Do you have anything to talk about? Are you compatible? Are you attracted to other qualities - interiors - of the other or do you find that it makes you jump a little ?!

Love in time involves the realization of attraction - the more you see and know the person, the more you realize that you like many of his features. And many times, it goes beyond the physical aspect - maybe you are pleasantly surprised by a gesture, a word, or simply how well you understand and feel together!

You already have something in common, you already know that you can create a base together, that not everything is pure passion. Maybe you're a little disappointed that on the contrary, it's not a passion at all and you want to feel the thrill of madness, the devastating emotions, and the butterflies in your stomach - but all these, no matter how wonderful, are fleeting - are not what love between two means. people and a couple of relationships!

However, if you constantly feel dissatisfied and do not feel happy, if you feel a void, a lack, maybe, no matter how well you understand each other, he is not the right person! Maybe, no matter how tired you are of finding the right partner, you have to go ahead and not be content with what you have…

Often, you can love your partner, but only love him/her as a friend and continue to dream of passionate love - only you can realize how you feel and what you need. But don't kick into something real, into a happy couple relationship, just because it seems trivial and your dream of love as in fairy tales - life is not an ideal story, so live in reality!

So, love at first sight or in time? The essential thing is - to be love, true love, not attraction, not passion, not friendly love! And this is what you find yourself going through the test of time. - BECOME REAL…

Without building a relationship, that love will be consumed. And if the relationship doesn't work out, if the two don't get along and can't communicate, then that love, at first sight, remains just a beautiful story.

Dreaming is beautiful - but living is much more beautiful! So open your eyes and see if you live a love that is not romantic, not ideal, not like in stories - but a love that will make you happy in everyday life, a love that will make you fulfilled…

After all, the idea of ​​" the only pair for each one "is rather a beautiful myth - you find the right pair and this remains your pair only if you both build a relationship together!