Look who you are

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A man of many words

Zi Ji, a disciple of Mozi, asked his teacher, "Is it good to talk more?"

Mozi replied, "Toads and frogs scream day and night till their mouth is dry and their tongue is tired, but no one listens to them.

Look at the cock, crowing in time at dawn, the world shakes, people rise early. What are the benefits of talking more? It only works if it suits the moment."

In real life, people who talk a lot often say nonsense. And as the saying goes, it starts with the mouth. People who talk too much will inevitably speak wrong, and do endless harm.

What Zeng Guofan hated most was superfluous words, and he had been working hard on this subject all his life. He not only criticized himself often, "The daily loss of words is really evil spirits!"

I often ask myself, "What I say is humorous, but not sincere from my heart." Such speech habits and personality defects, "When can I pull out this root?"

Not only did he impose this rule on himself, but he made it an important part of his family's wisdom, especially to his two sons and younger brothers.

If you want to use words to suppress others, even if you win, others will not be convinced, or should be modest in life.

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A man of desire

Jin Ying in the Qing Dynasty "maxims Lianbi" wrote: people's minds, desire is narrow, desire is wide. Life, desire tired, desire less Ann, no desire just.

Taoism also tells us: much desire is bitter. Life and Death are Wearing Me Out Start with greed. Less desire and less action. Be at ease in body and mind.

"More desire for suffering" of "more desire", refers to the desire for more pain; That is to say, the demands and desires of the world are insatiable.

There are many realms of desire that all living beings pursue, but the most important ones are five desires: wealth, sex, fame, food and sleep.

The Stoic mind is the most bitter, the most troubled. Because in the process of seeking to meet the desire, may not be satisfied, once obstructed, and can not get, will produce a variety of distress. Hence the saying, 'More desire is more pain'.

In this world, if you want to be free and happy, the most important thing is to be able to do subtraction and control your own desires. As Lao Tzu said, "for the day," "less private and less desire."

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A man of great fear

In life, we will be afraid of this fear that, afraid of a lot, but often the more afraid of what happens.

Fear is a binding cloth inside us, holding us back. In daily life, those who are not psychologically strong can only be carried forward.

Only those who are not afraid and have strong psychological quality will not be hijacked and stand out.

If you're timid, you're going to lose everything. A man of great fear is always afraid of gain and loss, afraid of this and that, and afraid to do anything. In fact, fear to fear, really useful? What will come will come.

In the face of anything, we should keep a normal heart, calm, calm, elegant, calm life, work. When the army comes, the water comes.

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A troublemaker

Trouble-making people, haggle over every ounce, are often people become things package.

In real life, there are often such a kind of people, they care about personal gains and losses every ounce, for a little benefit can fight with others scalp, never willing to eat a little loss.

And they seem to benefit from being "smart." For example, companies hand out a bunch of perks, and when the last one is left, one savvy employee jumps in and claims it for himself on some pretext, while other colleagues are too embarrassed to say...

This seemingly shrewd person seems to be very practical, but in fact, he has committed a major taboo in human life.

Some people put "profit" first when they get along with others. They can't eat any losses, and they always want to take advantage of any advantages. They are always calculating that others are not as smart as they are, so they can sponge off and get some advantages, as if by doing so, they will have a better life than others.

This kind of person utilitarian heart is too heavy, the utilitarian as the primary interpersonal relationship, their days are very tired, very nervous, lived very lack of fun.

In fact, if you think about it carefully, eventful people, haggle over every ounce of people actually live very tired, and do not take advantage of anything. Instead, the public is disgusted.

To haggle over trivial matters, for the old sesame rotten millet, I am afraid that the ship of the heart can not bear the burden, the boat of memory can not bear, will let the painful past contain the future.

Life should learn to leave room for others, anything can not be done too absolutely. Everything is not angry, not haggle over every ounce, can make people cultivate temperament, hone the will, can let a person into a calm and calm detachment.

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