Life is so fucked up, do these two things will be enough

　　Perhaps each of us has had, for the things we do not like and hard work, for unreliable people and forced smile. This kind of experience, to put it nicely, is to sharpen the will, in fact, to put it bluntly is self-torture. Life is very short, why self suffering? It is enough to do these two things: do what you love to do, dating reliable people. Life is not to say that the flowers are beautiful, but also can live comfortably.

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　　The first thing you need to do is to live for yourself and follow your heart's choice.

　　In reality, we rarely seem to really think about what we like to do the most, and what kind of life we really want to live inside. Or maybe you already know the answer, but in the face of cold reality, the pressure of survival, running around for most of your life, but too late to listen carefully to your inner voice.

　　I know a post-90s girl Xiao Zhou, working for five years to save money, a while ago finally saved enough money to buy a second home in Beijing. And she graduated with her classmates, some still snail living outside the fifth ring, with a shared object crowded a house, some simply back home development. But she is the only one, five years not to buy clothes not to watch movies, not to fall in love not to socialize, each meal no more than ten dollars, buy the most cost-effective reduced price fruits and vegetables, live in the cheapest Tangjialing, can walk never take a taxi ......

　　The "Queen of Money Saving" finally has her own nest, happy family members, but she herself suddenly collapsed. Suddenly without "buy a house" the goal, every day feel at a loss. When she was in college, she was also a young woman of arts and culture, like shopping, love to eat food, buy books, plant flowers, photography and learn musical instruments are her daily routine. But these years of desperate work, so that her nerves are tense, every day in the anxiety and insomnia, the former temperament is gone. In addition to never take care of themselves, they look more haggard than girls of the same age by several years. She longed for a love, but found it difficult to fall in love with such a self.

　　Sometimes we work hard to pursue the same thing, give up things we like for it, do things we don't like. But tell yourself that first bitter then sweet, as it should be. But it's as if we forgot an important question, which is, is this something you really want, or does everyone want it? In the end, it is the choice of the heart, or the people? Is it worth it to give up what you like for it?

　　In fact, if you do what you love, then it is worth it, if you live in the expectations of others, then it is not worth it. We are always used to pleasing others, but often forget to please ourselves. Put yourself into the shackles of making everyone happy, but forget that this is your own life and has nothing to do with others.

　　The other day I read a little story. A poet, who wrote a poem that no one appreciated, complained to a Zen master about his woes. The Zen master pointed to a plant outside the window and said, "Look, what kind of flower is that?" The poet said, "The nightshade." The Zen master said, "Yes, this night fragrance only opens at night, that's why people call it night fragrance. Do you know why it does not bloom during the day?" The poet shook his head.

　　The Zen master laughed and said, "Flowers that open during the day are meant to be noticed and appreciated by others. A flower that blooms at night is not noticed by anyone; it blooms only to please itself! No one appreciates it, but still opens itself and fragrances itself, it only does so to make itself happy. A person, is not as good as a plant?"

　　Many people, always leave the path of their life to others to choose. All the efforts they make in their life are for others to see, and in order to win the approval and smile of the people around them, they abandon what they love to do and cover their ears to listen to their heart. Only halfway through the journey do they realize that their original faces are already blurred and indescribable, leaving only a heart that no longer beats and a road that is difficult to turn back from.

　　If you choose to live according to your heart, of course you have to pay the price of life. The warmth, happiness, and pain of the inner heart are tasted alone. But it's better than following the crowd, going with the flow, losing yourself, never knowing what you love to do. There is another kind of people who know what they want, but can not resist the temptation, the world outside is very exciting, house and car, fame and status ...... various external factors will be bound to the body and mind, turning themselves into their slaves, rather than the master of life.

　　In fact, when you are finally able to do what you like, you will find that all costs are worth it. Li Yinhe said that in order to live the life one loves, one must know what it is that one loves to do. These require not only dedication and perseverance, but also the courage to overturn established patterns of life, the confidence and wisdom to balance one's life, and the luck to make what one likes a way of life.

　　2

　　The circle determines life.

　　It is said that life is enough to have one or two confidants, meaning that friends are valuable in the fine and not in more. Life is too short, life is too busy, instead of wasting a lot of time on unreliable people, it is better to start interacting with reliable people to save time and effort.

　　Nowadays, there are more and more smart people, but fewer and fewer reliable people. I once met such a person, about to talk about things, but put off again and again. Today because of rain, tomorrow because of something, and the day after that said not comfortable ...... that according to this, the spring sleepy autumn, summer heat and winter cold, we do not talk about things, cut off the friendship is actually quite good.

　　The people with unreliable friendships, delaying work efficiency and reducing social quality. The office just left a colleague, known as "Mr. unreliable". I remember when he first came, to colleagues to pour water with snacks, the leadership also praised him for his vision. But after a long time, found that this person is not reliable. The work given to him to do, regardless of whether they are competent, are first down, the results handed over but full of holes. I thought he was reliable to give him peace of mind, I did not expect him to have a good idea on the surface, but in fact, the outside is strong, and refused to seek advice, afraid that others have stolen his credit. After nearly causing a big disaster, the leadership decided to dismiss him.

　　As the saying goes, people with virtuous quality high. What kind of people you are with, you will become what kind of people. So in order to improve the quality of our social life, why not take the initiative to be with people who are dependable? When you no longer have those unreliable people in your circle of friends, your life will also be revitalized.

　　One of my old classmates, like most people, used to always say, "We'll meet again next time!" "I'll definitely buy you dinner next time!" Because of the close relationship, I often laughed at him: "Which time is next time?" But then something happened that made him stop saying such things, although for most Chinese people, "please have dinner" has become a harmless courtesy.

　　That year, he and a group of netizens had an offline reading meeting, but that day, due to a sudden snowstorm, traffic jams were serious, and seeing that most people in the group said they couldn't come, he almost defaulted to the event being cancelled. Luckily, the venue was closest to his home, so he walked to the cafe to try his luck, but he saw the only person who arrived on time, and is now his best friend, Mr. A. After talking to him, he realized that A had guessed that there would be traffic jams, so he woke up an hour early and checked the transfer to take the subway.

　　He was very touched and talked until late afternoon, when he said, "Next time I will buy you dinner and we will continue to talk!" After a week, he was busy with work and forgot all about A. But A. invited him to his home on the second weekend. "I've been waiting for your invitation, and since you don't take the initiative, I'll ask you out!"

　　When he arrived at A's house, he met a group of A's friends and had a great time chatting with them, realizing that they were all a group of people with similar personalities. And A's home is also decorated with simple and simple, clean and tidy, just like his person, down-to-earth, reliable, attentive and thoughtful.

　　After that he often in and out of the activities organized by A Jun, by the influence of that group of friends, the former slightly impetuous he slowly became stable; his serious and reliable also won the appreciation of the unit leadership, this year not only promoted, and his girlfriend's wedding is also on the agenda, because the other side said that although he used to be romantic, but always feel the lack of something, now rest assured.

　　Things gather in groups, people are divided by groups. With reliable people, refuse the vicious circle of socialization and improve the quality of life. Unexpected surprises may be waiting for you not far away.

　　Do what you love to do, make friends with reliable people, life is short, do these two things well, than anything else.