Learn to appreciate others and you'll be a better person

There's a hot question on the Internet: Why do some people always find others unpleasant?

Gao Zan replied, "Because he is narrow-minded and always hostile to others, magnifying their shortcomings and ignoring their strengths."

In life, it's easy to find the bad in others, but it's hard to recognize the good in others.

There was a new, good-looking colleague at my niece's company who was about her age.

Referring to her new colleague in a conversation, she curled her lips and said:

"Ah, as expected long good-looking person, popularity is better than average person, just don't know ability how?"

Between the lines, I detected a sour note.

But when she met her niece on October 1 and mentioned her new colleague again, her attitude changed greatly.

It turned out that not long ago, she was responsible for a Mid-Autumn Festival publicity project with her new colleagues.

In the process of cooperation, she found that her new colleague is very capable, not the "vase" in the legend.

"Even though she came to the company a few months later than I did, she did a much better marketing plan, from detail to creativity.

She was also very careful, and if she hadn't pointed out an important statistical error in my plan, it might have been killed."

Later, my niece sighed to me that after the project, her new colleagues told her that they had a pleasant cooperation and learned a lot from her.

"It's a shame to think about it. When she first joined the company, I was a little jealous of her, but now I admire her more. She lets me know what my shortcomings are."

Writer Zhang Xiaoxian once said, "Life is too short to feel sorry for yourself or be jealous."

Jealousy does not make people better, only appreciation.

It's hard to grow if you only look at people's faults.

If you are good at finding the good in others, you can learn from each other's strong points and gradually improve.

I have seen an experiment like this:

Someone asked a group of participants who knew each other to write down the people they admired and the people they hated.

And when they did, they found an interesting pattern:

The people you hate are often the people who hate you. The people you admire are often the people who admire you.

This is the way of life. If you look at people with hostile eyes, you will get hostility and contempt.

If you look gt people with an admiring eye, you will get goodwill and admiration.

People who appreciate others will be appreciated by others.

Writer pull miss know an entrepreneur Zhang Jie, her entrepreneurial success lies in this.

A few years ago, when Sister Zhang was just starting a factory, one of her suppliers didn't think much of her business.

Because her factory is not big, she always put their orders on the back burner when arranging the order, which delayed the delivery time several times.

And the reason for prevarication is always the same:

"There are too many large orders from old customers. Your orders are small, so we can only postpone production."

Many customers lose their temper over the unfairness of the situation.

But Sister Zhang did not, she felt that the other side of the old customers, business is good, material quality must be very good.

Good quality, then the factory management must not be bad.

She thought that she had just opened a factory and must learn more from excellent enterprises.

After that, she often visited the other side of the communication, understand the advantages of the other side, while listening to praise, but never mention the delay of the order.

The supplier, who was praised as happy, communicated with her a lot of experience in production and management.

Not only did she learn new things, but the supplier also offered to help her improve her supply plan.

This has improved the production efficiency of Sister Zhang's factory.

Most importantly, they recognized Sister Zhang and were willing to provide more cooperation and help.

Later, they became very good friends.

Appreciate others, is a kind of tolerance, but also a virtue.

As Leo Tolstoy put it:

"Praise is necessary in the best, most loving, and most innocent relationships.

As for the wheels of a chariot, oil is necessary."

If you find fault with others in life, don't expect them to be calm with you.

If you are unreasonable, do not expect others to be pleasant to you;

If you can't appreciate others, you can't expect them to agree with you.

Appreciation is a kind of complement, is a kind of promotion, is also a kind of harmony.

Appreciate a little more, the distance between people will be closer.