La Jolla Cove

A definition of a "Cove," is a small sheltered bay. Coves usually have narrow, restricted entrances, are often situated within a larger bay....

I was fine, good, and cordial when I last hung out with friends and their friends. The few times when people have brought to my attention and asked me about my decision and my different perspective, I was nice. I could easily take an opportunity and bash their beliefs or their thoughts. But I don't.

It is unfortune that at this day-n-age, it is not just relationships, but friendships that are being challenged.

I mean, it is a bummer when you think of it this way. You have a foundation, valued friendship that is set on a non breakable bond that is now having doubt and questioned when the world around is by differences, perspectives and judgement. On top of this, it has caused your established friendship into, doubts, reflection and hurt on this solid friendship.

These obstacles and challenges that this world is facing today, should never be between a friendship and being involved with each others lives. There is the whispers or the response to one another, "I thought you would know that I am better than that."

In response to addressing this isn't a mad response, isn't a text to be read out of anger. This is shock and the phrase "wow," "dang dude." "this is really hurtful," is the many responses that we fall into.

Being friends from different views, who see from different perspectives and beliefs, but we continue to have a good experience and have a good respect is the overcoming of the challenges that are thrown.

It is insulting and hurtful to me. When a friendship is by another prospective....People know we're friends, so it also made me look like a bad friend that I wasn't there, or that we had a fall out, ( when in reality, we are still friends), or like you don't want people to know you are still friends with someone that has been shunned by them. Now you take this action into play by the people you follow, you call as "friends."

I value our friendship. I don't put any beliefs, critics from any different view of beliefs, or base on judgement of another view of someone else.

I stayed classy not trashy. Being respectful. Show maturity. Show how you hold yourself. Even the conversation with them, it was all good.

We had a discussion and the one of the few people, (that you are following and supporting,) that supports me on the decision and stands in class and not "taking on a task," not doubting, just nothing but positivity, maturity and support. We all move on forward to something else. A different subject. It should not ever be a "heat up" discussion. It is honesty, class and above all, I value our friendship. The challenge and obstacle is to not have anything come between a solid, value friendship from "critics," from the outside. I am walking in higher power's word. I am loyal, faithful and loving. I don't doubt.

If that friendship has negative action from the manipulating of others around to cause this obstacle in the course, it showed me by this action, that you follow them. You don't beat to your own drum. You don't have the strength, courage and wisdom to lead yourself away from shunning me now just cause you value more with them. You are worried about them. We we're friends BEFORE these challenges in our world was involved in both of our lives. We both knew each other before them.

Friendships and couples at this day-n-age is a Cove now. We have a foundation all of these are the larger wonderful, beautiful bay waters; good people, good environment and a wonderful solid relationship, establishing the relationship, trust, faithful to one another, memories and experiences! The world we are living in now, the relationships and friendships is being challenged through testing waters, testing any weakness to become a strength, growing experience on both sides. Going through these narrow creeks of negativity or discouragement, and restricted entrances of conversations or actions. You can come out stronger or it will lead to heartbreak.

Just remember, that heartbreak is not a forever feeling. Time heals YOU! All wounds take time. Time is so valued to everyone, respectfully and rightfully so. Time is so precious to us. You can not gain it, you can only lose it. Putting in effort, the work, the foundation you can build or may rebuild if you take the time to continue to GROW with one another. Be honest, be faithful, be loyal and BE THE CHANGE! Be a LEADER! Step forward, be strong, be honest, have the conversation with your friends, or relationship and don't see it as being broke, victim or weak, see it as GROWING, LEARNING and LEADERSHIP. Striving to be BETTER NOT A STUBBORN SETTER. Be someone that values your worth and build that strong relationship during the challenging world we live in today! Love one another, respect one another and most of all APPRECIATE for one anther!