Keep these things to yourself if you want to remain happy.

Stop telling people your business. Some individuals talk to you so they can talk about you. ― Nipsey Hussle

How can I stop telling people, and when should I know I am an oversharer?

There is a gray line.

Pay attention to minor things, especially when the debate gets one-sided.

Think about your privacy.

Don’t share it.

People can use it against you.

My granny used to say.

There is a reason we have two ears and one mouth: listen more and talk less.
How and when to stop
Don’t share your weakness.

People will use it against you in the future.

I love to celebrate my accomplishments with family and friends after obtaining them.

Don’t disclose when you start.

I don’t share my future plans with anyone but myself.

I started many ventures in the past; all failed.

I acquired excellent things, but the primary lesson I learned was that I was oversharing.

I only discuss my side hustle after attaining specific results.

First, I formed a practice of building the business with 100% effort, and if it still needed to work out.

Then there is no use in sharing; if it turned out, it’s time to organize a family BBQ.

I will eat at the restaurant unless I have to give a huge tip.
You are not dining at the establishment to make someone happy or providing a hefty tip.

My father-in-law has a basic concept about tipping that I follow all the time. If the food is good and the waiter is extremely proactive about everything and also nice, I'll give a good tip.

And if the service is adequate, there is absolutely no tip. With this approach, I enter each eatery.

Now the question arises: do I have to provide a tip each time despite the amazing service?

The basic answer is no.

Pleasing others?
Never put the secret to your happiness in someone else.- Unknown

Don’t change your style of living to make your parents or friends pleased.

Please don’t spend your life doing something you despise only to make someone happy, or they will feel good.

That is a loser's mentality. I don't care what other people think, and trust me, most of the time they are even thinking about you.

Prioritize your happiness over everything. When you are happy, you will make other people happy; it's not going to work the other way around.

I don’t like to share my material belongings.

I like to keep my act of compassion secret.

You don’t need to share or brag about it.

I used to express my problems in studying hard to get ahead in life.

I used to think it might motivate someone, but I don’t do it. I think my character is enough to motivate.

Stop and establish this practice of donating before you speak.

Meditation can benefit you a lot. I tried it for 30 days.
Make a list of safe subjects to talk about.

Does the person you are sharing with need to do it first?

Develop a rereading habit before you send texts, emails, postings, etc.

Emotions
Recognize your oversharing feelings.

Before giving personal information, consider if that person “needs to know” and what they may do with it.

Be an active listener; let the other person perform the talking portion.

It’s completely good to chat all the time.

Keep your responses short.

When you overshare, you open yourself up to criticism and judgment from others.
The ending thoughts
Joy comes not via possession or ownership but through a wise and loving heart. Buddha

If you just focus on the natural method to stay joyful, listen more and talk less,

No one is going to assist you in finding out what actually makes you happy.

You have to introspect and find out what makes you happy.

Here is a short experiment.

Go on a long walk, ideally in nature
Think, when was the last time you were actually happy?
What made you happy?
Is there a way to repeat it?
Is it worth it?
Tip: Stop pleasing other people. It's not worth it.

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