Is Love Blind?

Love is Blind. Or is it.

Who in their right mind would ever commit to marrying someone before you ever really knew who they were or what they looked like?

Well, there were people who did. Just watch the show Love is Blind.

The contestants had 38 days to meet each other, date (without seeing each other), get engaged (first time seeing each other), spend a week in paradise alone (well with cameras) together, move in together and then get married.

I binged the whole first season in one day. Well, let’s put in less than 24 hours, since it was after midnight by the time I watched the final episode. Then I still stayed up to find what I could about the participants on social media and how things were going still to this day, using google and social media to dive into all that I could find about this show.

I mean, were Barnett and Amber still actually married?

Lauren and Cameron. They were the dream couple.

Jessica, the most dramatic one.

But then what about Kelly and Kenny, who couldn’t even say I do while standing at the altar?

And what about the other contestants who called off their engagements or didn't even get engaged? Google and Instagram to the rescue.

On the show, they showed 6 couples get engaged. But Insider actually revealed that 8 couples were engaged, the 2 additional couples just weren’t shown on the show. I mean, they do have to hook the viewers by showing the most dramatic stuff anyway.

As much as I don’t like reality TV, I got so hooked on Love is Blind (and then Married at First Sight) and I had to know what happened to the couples in the show.

I know that you don’t always have to meet someone to know if they really are the right person for you. There really is such a thing as love being blind. But it doesn’t happen all that often.

We are humans and we are also just energy. The energy of one person is attracted magnetically to the energy of another person. Physical looks don’t always play a part. The looks do for some people, but usually the most successful relationships are based on the energy of the mental and emotional connections between the people.

Have you ever wondered why you are just so drawn to a certain person? That’s an emotional and mental connection you have between you.

During the show, singles moved into a house, well if you look at the articles about the show, each person actually stayed in a trailer that was kinda like a jail cell. The women lived together and the men lived together (this is what they showed on the show). The men and women never saw each other. They “dated” each other in these pods, which were 2 rooms that were only separated by a piece of frosted glass so that you couldn’t see through it. The rooms were completely soundproof except for speakers in the connecting wall.

On each date, the couples would talk and ask each other questions, even eat meals together. The goal was to get to know each other and figure out if you wanted to marry someone based on their voice and the things you were able to learn about each other based on the dates.

And just like any reality show, there was tons of drama. But when you read some of the articles, the drama that was shown on the episodes of the show, really just was for the purposes of getting more viewers.

The women had their cliques and even competed for men. Basically just like if they were in high school.

The men talked about the women and who they were interested in, and even who they thought was crazy.

The show was dubbed as a social experiment to see if couples could actually become a couple and commit to get married before they saw who the other person was.

Reality TV, celebrity lives, and even the lives of your friends and family are interesting because we as humans love to be nosy. While we really only care about ourselves, we like to be nosy and see what is going on with other people. That’s why there are so many reality TV shows out there that attract so many viewers.

By being nosy and focused on someone else’s life for 5 minutes, it takes the focus off the stress and chaos of our own lives. We get to see what kind of hot mess someone else’s life is for a hot second and that makes us feel temporarily better about our own lives.

And that’s exactly what happened with me when I binged Love is Blind. I was able to stop focusing on my own life and the stress and chaos I had, to watch these strangers fight over each other and cause drama on TV for a few hours. Then I took it even further by finding the contestants on social media and googling for articles about the show to learn even more.

It was a temporary reprieve from my own life as the whole pandemic was starting.

Even still to this day, I still check in on social media on the participants that I really liked and actually want to see how they are still doing.

It’s that temporary burst of dopamine that makes you feel better in the moment.