Infidelity - A Secret That People Do Not Discuss, but Which Destroys Their Relationship

Many people do not talk about infidelity because they are afraid of the mouth of the world, or they think that this subject is something about which it is better not to say anything. And yet, ignoring infidelity does not mean that it does not exist and does not cause them much suffering. According to statistics, over 80% of people were negatively affected by infidelity.

1. Couples are destroyed because of their partner's infidelity

The secret is an element of infidelity. The fact that the partner deliberately hides conversations or meetings with another person of the opposite sex shows that he is an unfaithful man.

Involvement in the relationship with another person is another element of infidelity, this time of an emotional nature. Emotional involvement is important and generally means something, because the effort is being put into it, so it is a sign of infidelity.

The desire to be wanted, to be admired, to be important to someone, and so on, is another element of infidelity. If there is that attraction, chemistry, desire to be with another person, it is clear that it is about infidelity. It is not necessarily about sex, but especially about what a person wants, what he imagines.

People do not talk about what they want and that is why they become unhappy, and to fulfill their desires they cheat on their loved ones. Most people do not talk about anything, they accumulate frustrations and this leads to the destruction of the couple's relationship. They have one thing in mind: "If you have deceived me, I will leave you!" It doesn't matter what happened, what were the real reasons that made a person unfaithful. People are angry, sad, and disappointed when they realize they are being deceived, stop thinking about reasons, and don't want to talk about them.

If they had discussed all these issues and problems before, they probably would not have reached such consequences and would not have been in a crisis of their relationship, leading to infidelity and separation.

2. People have very high expectations of their partner

Expectations are huge today, from your loved one:

• Be beautiful, sexy, smart

• Take care of the children, her person, and even other relatives

• Let him like the job he has, and let him bring him enough income

• To be professionally successful

• To pay their bills, so to manage financially

• Make time for holidays and mutual friends

• Don't be fussy, nervous, and jealous

• Be confident and have a personality

• Don't have friends of the opposite sex or give the impression of infidelity (eg chatting on Facebook)

• To take care of the things in the house, to be diligent, and others.

It is very difficult to get everything from one person, especially since people have flaws. Nobody is perfect.

Every person wants to feel loved, desired, admired, to have a sense of identity, purpose, a sense of meaning, belonging, etc.

Infidelity leads you into an identity crisis, which is always painful. It's like someone tells you that: you are not unique, you are no longer good, you are not indispensable, and so on. This creates other negative feelings, other frustrations. People no longer trust their perception, they feel that they have lost their sense of direction.

What a man wants and what his partner offers can be two completely different things, which is why feelings of frustration arise and infidelity.

Infidelity - the consequence of problems or the cause of separation

The main cause of separations or divorces is infidelity, but there are other reasons. If a relationship has many problems, infidelity is only a consequence of them, not a cause of divorce. People give up the relationship not only because of infidelity but rather because they are unhappy, that their partner does not give them what they expect from him. It is about many failures, sadness, unhappiness, frustration, etc.

People destroy their relationships through other things: criticism, negativity, stubbornness, the tendency to do things unintentionally, disrespect, cynicism, contempt, lack of appreciation and love, and so on.

3. People hide that they are cheating

Most people hide the fact that the couple is unfaithful. Statistics show that over 90% of people hide the fact that they are cheated. Also, people who cheat hide this every time, as much as they can.

People do not talk about infidelity and are even unaware of it. It's like talking about intimacy or their very difficult relationship. Infidelity hurts their feelings a lot, lowers their self-esteem, makes them feel betrayed, loses their confidence. Because of these issues, people do not want to say anything about infidelity and are looking for ways to heal. They want and try to have confidence again, to love, to have meaning in life.

Today, monogamy is not a dogma for people, it is a choice. Every man will choose to be monogamous, to be in a relationship in which he wants to be. If he meets a person he considers special, with whom he will open his heart, then he will give up chat applications, conversations with other people of the opposite sex and will dedicate himself to the relationship.

Unfaithful people are looking for different reasons for this. For example, men choose to betray their immaturity, they want to experience other relationships. They cheat because they have problems with drugs or alcohol and make bad decisions, because they feel too old or because they are in the middle age crisis because they have certain emotional needs or are unhappy in their current relationship. There are many reasons why unfaithful people justify their behavior, many of them real, others due to lack of maturity.