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In fact, the independence and integrity of each person is itself something very concrete, very specific and real, while the relationship between people, on the contrary, is something very abstract, and people's concern and dependence on such abstract things far exceeds their concern and need for their own integrity, so that people will ignore their own integrity to find the so-called perfect relationship.

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Between people, there may not be such a dichotomy as "I'm right, you're wrong". The real wrong is only relative to their own wrong, the real right is also only relative to their own right.

"You're wrong, I'm right." It is a simple and crude logic, even if it brings a feeling of superiority to oneself at the time, the relentless years will eventually tell oneself that all those things that one insists on separating right and wrong at the beginning actually stem from one's misunderstanding of life.

In fact, you're right, I'm right; in fact, we're wrong.

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In fact, it is those who have let themselves go, for this reason and hit the south wall head to head, more know what is self-discipline.

In fact, it is the extreme ego of those who have experienced to take themselves as the center of the world, people who think they are very important, after waking up one day, it is easier to step into the realm of no self.

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A person's life is a whole, not a variety of fragments.

The reason why people go astray in life is that many of them are carried away by the fragments of other people's lives that they can see.

In fact, many of our impact, other people's bright and beautiful life fragments, the real story later turned into a tragic life tragedy.

No one can see another person's life as a whole and experience another person's true perception of life.

Each person also has their own bright and beautiful fragments, and only they know what is behind these fragments, what kind of a thing.

There is no fragment that can truly represent oneself, and this is the truth of life deep inside each person.

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In fact, once a person has the awareness of being constantly aware of himself, his words and actions will change radically. However, just this kind of awareness, to really have, also requires a person to go to a long time dedicated practice, maybe it takes a year, maybe it takes many years.

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In fact, the ability to develop relationships between people is mainly determined by how to face and deal with the part of the "incompatible" ability, the "incompatible" part of the reconciliation into the compatible, the relationship between the two people can step into a higher realm.

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The phrase "eyes are the windows to the soul" refers to the fact that one's mind can be seen through one's eyes, rather than using one's eyes to enrich one's mind. In fact, the eyes are used less, see less, but more beneficial to the development of the human mind.

Sight, taste, touch, hearing, and smell, it is not sight that develops the brain the most. When people use taste, touch, hearing, and smell, they tend to be more calm and focused, and they are more healing to one's mind and body.

One of the reasons people today are more prone to anxiety and depression is that they use their eyes to see too much and their other senses to feel too little.

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At any time, the context of the word "patience" is a negative vocabulary, the inner language of "patience" into the word "patience", you can immediately find with their own frequency resonance of things, all the time. You can immediately find things that resonate with you in the same frequency, releasing positive power, which is completely different from "patience".

In fact, people are what they often use as their inner vocabulary.

Would you rather be an "extraordinarily tolerant person" or an extraordinarily patient person?

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People are desperately trying to create and improve their living conditions, but few people are desperately trying to create and improve their mental level. Living conditions will not be enjoyed at all times, while the inner mind, people must use every moment, a person can not sleep a good sleep, are inseparable from their own mental capacity, the mind out of the question, even if sleeping in a good bed, the same can not even sleep.

Perhaps the living conditions are easier to compare people with each other, people's hearts even if they are carrying a big, they know the pain, but still want to compare others to win.

In fact, the difference in the level of intelligence between people is as big as the difference in wealth between the richest and the poorest people in the world.

And, wealth must also be through the human mind, in order to have an effect on people, the real decision of life happiness or not, is always the level of human mind.

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The truth is that every day cannot be the way one has already seen it, and there is no such thing as a true sense of only repeating. It is only the lack of man's own ability to perceive that can only identify today as a repeat of yesterday.

Every day is a new day, but no one can really appreciate that every day is indeed a new day, which is really the greatest tragedy of human life.

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In fact, the independence and integrity of each person is something very concrete, very specific and real, while the relationship between people is something very abstract, and people's concern and dependence on such abstract things far exceeds their concern and need for their own integrity.

Because of this, the perfect relationship that really exists in this world will only happen between two individuals who are independent, complete and perfect themselves, and never between two individuals who think they are full of all kinds of defects in life and need each other to fill them.

The challenge of marriage is, in fact, the challenge of each individual's own mental growth, the challenge of arriving at his or her own independence and integrity, never the challenge of a "relationship", which obscures the real facts of life.

People keep running away from the simple but bloody fact that "life requires constant growth".

What people need is growth, not dependence, and that is the recipe for any "relationship science.

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