In Your State of Comfort

We all know the saying! One can never be too comfortable, because the enemy is always plotting. This is not about the “haves” and “have nots”; clearly it’s about never being too comfortable because so many of your so-called good friends are the ones who are holding the knife. I’m a true believer that no one can break up a marriage but the two individuals that are legally tied together, however; others will try their hardest just because they are not smiling. However, if this taught me anything in life, the fact that I will keep those far away from things that are near to me.

Circles of friendship should have different levels. Now me, nor my ex were right for each other; but I can name a laundry list of people that didn’t help! The most disturbing thing my ex said to me was that I didn’t know who was taking behind my back. Now I can pull so many thoughts from that statement, but I’m going to focus on the ones who were going to my wife (at the time of marriage) telling her some twisted events about my past.

Now it takes a special person to look upon a situation and see two people with the appearance of happiness, and go out of their way to plant an evil seed of deception. Now I know that people have more, I’m not living in the past, nor am I bragging about the things I’ve had. I ran across this picture in my social media memory feed, so many thoughts ran through my mind. Marriage was ok, but needed improvement. Four cars, and a nice suburbian home and opened it all to those who I thought were close to me.

It’s funny when the events and the actions matched the visitation of certain friends and to reflect on what my ex said gave me a revelation at the moment about certain people. Friends are golden, but people that come in your life for reasons are only there to teach lessons.

There is no need to name individuals, and as far as I can remember; on every level of life, there was someone plotting a downfall on me. Certainly you aren’t any different from the equation. Especially the individuals who are kind and open-hearted; you are no exception to the rule. If the person cannot use you, they are plotting against you.

Many have told me this, and I have even experienced this time and time again. The good in me keeps allowing the repeated cycle. The most important thing in my life is that I do know ones who are tested and stood in the firey furnace with me through the times that broke me to tears and even to the point of not knowing my next move.

Please, if there is anything to take away from this, friends will show themselves in the time of need and there will be others that will give a good impression to get close and plot your downfall at the height of your most vulnerable moment.

I had enough at this time of my life and things come and go. However, the precious lessons that life gives us all are the most important that will help us grow and hopefully make better decisions about those who we keep close to our lives.

The better part of me wish those individuals well. I hope that light finds their hearts, but most importantly, their space and time with me can no longer exist. Understand the people in your life and put them in their correct circle and govern yourself accordingly……”well”!