In the eyes of men, the 4 most degrading behaviors of women, I hope you have none of them!

01. Frugality and giving up image

Eileen Chang once said, "No woman is loved because her soul is beautiful."

This is true even if you are married.

Zhang Zhizhi in the TV series "Dear Myself", sensible, diligent, capable, is a good wife and mother in everyone's eyes.

In order to let her children receive a better education, she gritted her teeth and saved from herself, only buying dozens of clothes and cosmetics of no more than 100 yuan.

Apply facial mask, want to use the most economical cucumber slice, husband gave her 200 yuan of thermos cup, she also want to take shopping mall to return into cash.

Over time, her husband got used to her low profile.

When he got the 50,000 yuan bonus, his first thought was to spend it all on his mother and daughter, rather than his wife.

While Zhang zhizhi struggles to make ends meet for her family, he spends his days drinking with young and beautiful interns just to be laughed at by pomeranians.

Zhang found out her husband was cheating on her and was slapped in public.

Zhang Zhizhi, who was looked down upon by her husband, suffered from oppression and did not give up their own cause?

Writer Su Qin once said:

 

"You deserve all your anxiety and anger. Don't want to be soaked by the world, that from now on, first love yourself. We have to be good enough to ourselves to grow old gracefully."

Poor emotional support themselves, the most easy to get others despise.

To live elegantly, outwardly, inwardly, not to please others, but to become a better version of yourself.

A really smart woman knows how to "enrich" herself.

02. No boundaries, ambiguous

As the old saying goes: A hedge between keeps friendship green. There is a distance between friends, measured, can be respected each other.

This is especially true between friends of the opposite sex.

The most annoying character in the TV series Only thirty is Lin Youyou.

As soon as she appeared, her "bad intentions" were written all over her face:

Knowing that the other party has a wife and children, but pretend to be inexperienced appearance, take the initiative to lick xu Magic mountain ice cream in the hand;

When Xu was not around, he always "inadvertently" sent selfies to each other and tried to tease them every once in a while.

Even quit his job and came to the city of Xuhuan Mountain.

Repeatedly making intimate gestures that go beyond friendship, ingratiating, and constantly invading each other's lives.

This kind of initiative may turn a man off, but it's just novelty.

This kind of ambiguous, the man will not have a trace of respect for you, but also will not hesitate to abandon you in the interests of choice.

Just as Gu Jia hit the extramarital affair, xu Magic mountain kicked off the forest has a general.

A woman who really makes people respect her has a sense of boundaries in her words.

They don't want to stir up gossip, and they don't want to cause trouble to their best friend's family.

Not out of bounds, not dependent, not ambiguous.

Add fragrance, not trouble.

Complaining all the time without respect

Many women inadvertently drag their marriage into a bad mood:

The husband does not progress, the child is not obedient, make money not enough to spend, in-laws difficult to wait on..... Every little thing in their lives can be a trigger for an emotional outburst.

But complaining is not only not doing anything for your immediate life, it's actually pushing everyone around you away.

In the TV series Our Love, Ding Xue is spoiled and her husband Xu Guangming, who comes from a rural area, always does what she wants.

By xu Guangming's tolerance, Ding Xue more and more unbridled:

A contradiction, often scold Xu Guangming scold dog blood drench head;

A little dissatisfaction, on the xu Guangming complain sneer, do not give him any opportunity to explain.

Even in the face of xu Guangming colleague leadership, caught xu Guangming a scolding, or even directly start work.

Finally, Xu Guangming finally decided to part ways with Ding Xue.

It's often said that a bad mood is just as contagious as a yawn, and that we tend to avoid the negative people in our lives, especially our partners.

No one wants to spend a lifetime in a war of blame, weighed down by their partner's negative emotions.

Behind a wife who only complains, there must be a tired man in her heart.

04. There is no bottom line and everything is submissive

Tu Lei once said:

"Don't be too kind. Don't always think of other people, because some people won't think about your feelings, your difficulties, your difficulties, or even a warm word. They will take everything for granted."

Most women in marriage are like this, they are always taking care of other people's emotions, constantly suffering and sacrificing.

The reality is, the more sensible you are, the more confident the other person will be.

Yu Fengzhi is zhang Xueliang's wife, Zhang Xueliang everywhere mercy, she does not cry do not make;

Zhang Xuelang insisted on letting Miss Zhao four into the door, she also quietly back down.

Zhang Xueliang was imprisoned, she was running around and became ill from overwork, had to go abroad for treatment.

Even when she was abroad, she continued to trade stocks to accumulate more wealth for Zhang.

She bought two houses and waited for the day when her husband was free and could live out his old age with him and Miss Zhao si.

She left zhang Xueliang in the cemetery next to a vacant lot, her last wish is to die with her husband in the same hole.

But in the end, she never saw Zhang again.

Later, Zhang Xueliang still chooses to be buried together with Miss Zhao four, Yu Fengzhi waited for a lifetime, wait to return after all.

Women, do not expect to blindly pay accommodation, can capture a man's heart.

Too sensible woman, must not get the other side of the treasure.

Because he knows that he can enjoy what you pay unscrupulously now, and don't have to pay for hurting you in the future.

05.

I like this sentence very much:

"It's important for a woman to have the ability to live a good life for herself, to have something that no one can take away."

Good marriage is inseparable from self - management.

Remember, life is not a one-size-fits-all, nor is marriage.

For the rest of your life, I wish you the ability to love, but don't lose the bottom line. Above all, live up to time and live up to yourself.