In marriage, the smartest people

　　1

　　For a long time, many people didn't understand why Grace went to work when her husband's family was well off enough to keep her worry-free for the rest of her life.

　　After she had her baby, she went back to work as an administrator, and then now, she has become an executive director. A monthly salary of 6000 +, in a small city, enough to support her expenses.

　　But there are still many people's focus on the wife of the "rich second generation", after marrying into a wealthy family is not willing to silence on the label.

　　Grace always told me at that time that in marriage, it is important to maintain material and spiritual independence, so that even if you lose your marriage, you will not be left with nothing.

　　Just like the other day, the news of her separation from Lao Miao told me from her mouth. I did not ask her too much, only that, fortunately, she did not bind herself to the marriage, and so, can bashfully see through. Whether it can go on or not, at least she has the preparation to live independently, as well as the ability to face the future independently.

　　2

　　Every role in a marriage, we do not know when it will end.

　　But all the flowers and snow fall into the wood and salt, when you think you can taste all the mountains and seafood, but finally found that you have to trek through the mountains and water before you can go to the gray hair, inevitably there will be people who can not hold on to the end and get off halfway. Then, the ability to stay single is especially important.

　　In love with each other, in love with each other, in the parting after each well. We should always have the ability to: eat alone, sleep alone, watch movies alone, travel alone to a long way; make decisions for yourself, pay for your future alone; go to a faraway place alone without having to reach out for money, and not be lonely when you can drink with a large group of people.

　　The ability to stay single is just to keep yourself from being like a pet that has lost its owner and is wandering the streets after another person has left, needing the ability to make a living again and rebuilding your confidence to face everything.

　　3

　　I once went to visit a woman owner of a business with a friend.

　　She was divorced from her husband and then started the company.

　　She did not shy away from saying that this woman in her 40s, her eyebrows have been stored in a hundred by the mall's momentum, but there is still a little bit of precious straightforwardness, then there is a person to middle-aged lovely.

　　"When we divorced, it felt like the sky was falling. Don't look at me now very thin and pretty, I can't lose the 30 years of fat, with a month are reduced, never fat again. I have parents on one hand and children on the other. Before is a full-time wife, at home to enjoy the blessings of the time, but the time to go especially wretched, because found that nothing will."

　　"What I particularly regretted at the time was that after marrying him, I was prepared to be dependent for life. Now that I think about it, it was not a birdie at all, it was a parasite. Can't live without a deposit."

　　"I first went to the supermarket as a salesman for a period of time, from 9:00 am to 6:00 pm stand, a month's salary of 600 yuan. There is no way, life always has to go on. Later, I thought about it, when I was in junior college, my major is secretarial, I will write some small articles, and began to take private work one company after another, what to write copy, what to write advertising slogans. Slowly feel out the way."

　　"Entrepreneurship is very bitter, but it is good, but let me understand some things, such as, no matter if I go into marriage, at least have the ability to get out. It doesn't mean being unfaithful, but rather, not to be hurt by others."

　　Sometimes, she says, it's always important to be prepared to be able to carry the load alone. The years go by, you never know when, will be alone, need you to go a long way.

　　4

　　Now many young girls, still carrying the idea of marrying a rich man, married to a powerful man, it seems that once you enter the powerful, you can be comfortable from now on.

　　However, no matter what time, destroy a person, is often comfort. In marriage, the smartest people are often both supportive of each other's certainty, but also have the ability to break into the world alone.

　　I have been in love with Chen for 5 years, married for 3 years, and we have always maintained, is independent of each other.

　　We had a joke, I said, you leave me, maybe you can also find a better woman than me; and I leave you, you can also find a better than you.

　　He nodded, and he said, I believe you can, and I believe I can.

　　In fact, we just unspoken, each other is not each other's irreplaceable, even if this moment is irreplaceable, the next moment, may not be so sure.

　　Whenever, we know that we will not be financially dependent on others and remain absolutely independent spiritually.

　　5

　　It's like someone wrote about Zhang Youyi, "Life is never complete on its own".

　　Many times, it takes us a long time to become understanding, to understand that we are alone, to understand that everything we have is safe only if we give it to ourselves, to understand that in the long days, the person who holds the hand is himself, and the one who knows him best is still himself.

　　Every relationship is serious, but every relationship is also independent. This is how men and women should be.

　　We must finally know that life is a trek will eventually reveal the mountains and water journey, you have to go all the way, good and bad will appear, accompanying you to the end, there may be many people, or perhaps, only you a person.