I Found My Sister After 2 Years

November 2018, I was in my room, browsing my phone. I went onto the ROBLOX app (for when my brother wanted to play since I did not have a computer at the time) and had a notification, which was odd. I hadn't been on roblox for awhile so I didnt send anyone a message or sent a friend request. I opened the notification to see that someone accepted my friend request the previous month. I was shocked. I immediately rushed to my mom to tell her.

The girl who sent the friend request was my little sister. My little half sister, with a different mom but same dad. Our dad walked out a couple years ago, when we found out he was an addict. Her mom.. I'm deciding not to speak very ill of her because I don't want to remain anonymous for this, but to put it simply, and as nicely as possible, she caused a lot of problems for my family in the past, even before my sister was born. She prevented me from seeing my sister, and tried to find an excuse to have her not talk to me, blamed me, said I messed up and I didn't see or talk to my sis for two years. She had blocked me on roblox.

I cried that day, but this is only the backstory. Fast forward to around mid January I decided to install tik tok and friend her. Tik tok was the thing she was most active on. I posted some things on it, an art video and two previews of videos on my YouTube channel. She commented on them. We kind of had a conversation in the comments. She asked for my phone number. I now know , because we already knew she used imessage so we couldn't really talk (I have android) via phone text message, so it was so her mom could have my number. How do I know? You'll find out eventually.

She gave me her snapchat , and we talked on there. We had talked about some things on there that were only for her and I to talk about, so when I tried to switch the chats to be there for 24 hours, she changed it back to disappearing immediately. I soon found out her mom would go through her phone. Getting to that soon. We would video chat and play roblox at the same time. Had personal conversations via roblox as well. Because they disappeared soon after you sent them too. And you could hide the chat. She asked questions about the past. I answered them, being cautious I didnt give any material for her mother twist so I couldnt talk to her again. I didnt insult her mother. But now I know her mom probably asked some of the questions. Everything was going okay. I was being careful, and she had changed a lot. We never fought. She understood the way her mom acted and is determined to be a better person. As her older sister I'm so fucking proud of her. I have way more happy memories with our dad than she does. I have an awesome mom.

She feels unwanted by our father. Heck, the reason we started talking talking was because of some news we heard of him. Too personal to share. I told her I know exactly how she feels- heck I'm his kid too, and I was honest about the situations her mother put me in, only if she asked. She wanted to know. So I was honest.

My grandmother and great grandmother organized a get together. Some of my dads family would be there. And most importantly, my sister would be there. I was nervous. I was scared. What if her mom pulled her shit at the last minute and I couldnt see her? I had spent two years missing her, worrying about the lies her mom was telling her, worrying she hated me. My mom would reassure me she would come back with time and that she loved me. My mom was right. I was so happy. It was a weight that was lifted off my shoulders…. When we were in calls or playing roblox , I took the opportunity to tell her how much I wanted to be a part of her life, how I loved her, and wanted the best for her. I told her I'd give her happy birthday wishes on my Instagram or in my own head, the past two years. She was happy too.

The day came and we called for a bit before it was time. We were both excited. I got ready, and my mom drove me over there on March 10th of this year. I was a shaking mess when I got there, but I did my best to not show it. It had been forever since I saw my grandma and great grandma, so obviously I gave them greetings. The others werent there yet. I waited impatiently and talked to them to have a conversation going to help distract me. That's when the door opened and she came in. Grandma went and gave her a hug. Next it was me. I gave her the biggest hug I've ever given her in my life. She was happy. She was smiling. I was crying. It wasnt long before the others came but we were all laughing , smiling and for once in my life I took a picture with her. I have it saved to my phone. My mom told me before to take pictures incase her mom pulled her shit again. We took snapchat videos of funny filters on people and were laughing. It was the first time I had enjoyed being at that house so much. I was usually anxious, nervous,or uncomfortable, or all of the above and more. I was having fun. Even when everyone left we continued to play around with snapchat on each other and grandmom. It was so funny, I still have them saved.

I left feeling a sense of relief, and feeling happier than I have for the past two years.

But by this point you are probably expecting that it didnt last. I was glad I took those pictures. Her mom messaged me, through her snapchat. Her mom , posing as her, told me she couldnt talk to me anymore. I asked why, “because you were telling lies about my mom"

And I told her I thought it was between us.

“Nice going so it’s true don’t ever write my daughter again”

Her mom did her best to push me down, tell me I was a mistake, told me “secrets" about my mom that I already knew because my mom is very open about her past with me, or told me blatant lies. Told me my dad thought I was a mistake. I know he doesnt. He has a good heart, but he made the wrong decisions. The thing that set me off was her mom started bad mouthing my dads family. That set me off. They aren't the addicts, they didnt make the stupid mistakes. They werent the joke , my dad was. All they wanted was to have my sister back in the family again.but pfft, her mom doesn't give a shit.

So, I told her, in simple terms, that my dads family has been nothing but helpful and compassionate. They are weird, but they are a loving family. I want my sister to have a good life. If she cant see that They are a good family, she is blind. I told her I hope she can give my sister a loving family and a good life cause it doesnt seem like she is. She did her best to hurt me. And you know what? When all else failed she told me my sister hated me. That she wanted nothing to do with my life. I told her to fuck off. My mom gave me permission to do that even before this happened, if she pulled her shit I could tell her to fuck off, so I did. I was sending my mom screenshots at this point. Before that, I texted my mom that she told me I was a mistake. Needless to say, my mom left work early..

After a bit more, I told her that I wouldnt a part of my sisters life if my sister didn't want to talk to me. I told her my sister would see through her bullshit one day, oh well ( I was actually very upset but also knew my sister already saw through it, but I played along) and I made the hard decision. Blocked my sisters account on snapchat.

Remember how I said I gave my sis my phone #? Yeah, her mom decided to text me instead of being a grown ass adult and moving on. Telling ME to grow up and stay away. I told her to stop being childish, I would stay out of my sisters life and that it was done and over with. I told her to move on. She told ME to stop texting her or she will put a restraining order on me and my mom (doubt she can) and I told her to leave me alone. My mom wasnt even involved, by the way.

She just told me to stop texting and I did. We were getting ready to go out. We were outside in the front, and I cried and hugged my mom . I had just gotten my sister back and lost her again. It was the first time I cried in front of my stepdad. He got me a donut to help me feel a bit better.

A few days later I got a comment saying, from my sister (I know it's her cause her mom does not use emojis and I can tell by the way she types) that she loves me, her mom took her phone, she doesnt hate me. That was a big relief. It still hurts. I'm scared to message her. I know I can't. The best thing I can do is wait right now but It gets to me sometimes. It does hurt, as much as I dont want to admit it cause that's what her mom wants.

And now my dad wants to be back in my life. He messaged me. I'm still gathering my thoughts to message him without just venting about how I feel, not just yet. I graduate soon and he is invited to my party but not graduation.

Whatever comes at me, I know I have the support of my mom and I'm willing to wait as long as it takes for me to see my sister again.

Thank you for reading.