I Am Not A F***ing Good Wife, Just A Supportive Wife

People need to stop judging others, it is really f***ing annoying me. What annoys me about people, is the fact that they are shocked to learn how much I support my husband.

I mean seriously get this, throughout the last four years my husband of nearly 4 years, has been hard at work doing full time work, university study, being a husband and a father to our nearly three year old daughter. Support is crucial in a marriage, but to my colleagues, they have nicknamed me ‘The Good Wife’ as they claim they wouldn’t support their spouse as much as I have.

We live in a two bedroom unit which means both our study and desk areas are out in the lounge room. Seeing as he started his university degree before our girl came along, going out with mummy on a weekend for most of the time while daddy studies has all she has known. We give him the time, and as it has been proven, it fricking tough to study with a baby, now a toddler running underfoot. We also do not have a garden, so trying to entertain a toddler is hard work indoors when all you have is a small sunroom.

I am judged and ridiculed however, and countless times over the past and present, my fellow work colleagues have joked, ‘I’d make him go to the library’ or ‘You’re a better wife then me, my husband would have to find another way’. I mean, is it that ridiculous in their eyes that I am ok with taking my daughter out so he can focus? Seriously? I am just a wife who is supporting her husband, what is the controversial issue about that? Sure, he could go to a library, but his whole setup, text books, laptop, extra computer screen, desk and materials are at home, why would I want him to cart it to a secondary location, only to have him cart it all back? I want him to succeed in his chosen career.

Call me old fashioned, but I believe supporting him now will benefit our whole family. As it stands now, he has just completed after four years a Bachelor of Accounting through Open Universities Australia, all whilst working full time, fathering and being a supportive husband to me. He always says he appreciates everything we do, and looks forward to spending family time when we can. We are looking forward to the possibility of our first family plane trip for his graduation ceremony in September/October 2021.

My trips out with my daughter are not boring in the least. We have been to see family, shopping, gone on drives and found new little places, went for walks along the beach and botanic gardens and just having good old mother daughter time. It is this time that is precious especially at that age, and as I work full time through the week and she is day care five days a week, the weekends going out exploring are great experiences for both of us. It has also been a great time to practice my child photography, luckily me little girl is photogenic as one day, I hope to move into photography as a career.

I am at a loss as to why people think I am a ‘Good Wife’ where in my eyes, I am just a loving wife who is supporting the effort and dream of the man I married. To all those who think low of me or think I am being walked over, take a look at yourself, maybe you are the problem.