How Well Do You Know Your Partner?

It may sound paradoxical, but in many "fresh" couples, partners know more about each other than those with a serious relationship. Why? As time goes on, some things are no longer given importance!

A 20-year-old married man probably forgot what flower, what color his wife prefers, while a boyfriend in the first year of the relationship pays attention to these things. You will say that these are unimportant details: flowers, colors, hobbies… but all these make up the person you love, they are small parts of the partner!

Maybe you'll say that it doesn't matter, that you know WHO he/she is. But do you know that? No one will get to know themselves (except the mystical sages), let alone their partner… Sure, you know how he will react in one situation or another, you know what he wants to do tonight, but do you know his true self?

No, and you won't even know him. This is because man's personality is constantly changing, it is formed and it changes a man goes through certain events, he knows certain people. Personality is never a constant and unchanging element!

Instead, small preferences and pleasures, fears, and phobias are important parts of one's personality. Plus they can change over time. Your partner may have liked green T-shirts at some point, but over time he has come to prefer black shirts… Just one example.

Knowing what color, what smell, what kind of clothes, what flowers, what season your boyfriend/girlfriend likes is as important in a serious relationship as in the first date.

Because they contribute to the intimacy between you, to a subtle closeness of your souls. There is a little story from which we can learn a lot: an Indian sage one day asks his disciples why two people, when arguing, feel the need to scream at each other, even though they are very close in space to each other.

Disciples can't answer, they can't explain: maybe they're nervous - but you can show that you're nervous by speaking normally! And the sage tells them: "the two scream because, while arguing, their souls no longer know each other, they move away from each other" and feel the need to scream to be heard, understood by the other!

Therefore, in couples where the two are in love and their souls are closer than ever, they do not scream, they do not even sometimes feel the need to talk… tender whispers and glances are enough for the souls who know each other…

So why are so many serious couples ignoring these partner details? Do you remember that during the first meetings, you shared your favorite hobbies, places, movies, songs, colors, books?

Do you remember how nice it was when you realized you had something in common? Of course, if you have had a serious relationship for a long time, you have likely come to prefer the same things in some areas: certain movies, certain music, a certain holiday location…

But you are not identical, because although you form a whole As a couple, you are two distinct personalities and have the right to your individuality.

So it would be fun and useful to try a little game to get to know or remember those little details that are part of your partner's personality, details that represent him and that you should know.

So, write a list of questions on a piece of paper, such as:

• Which movie do you prefer?
• Which actor?
• What song?
• What band?
• What book?
• What author?
• What magazine or newspaper?
• What color?
• What flower?
• What season?
• What place?
• Which person?
• Why are you most afraid?
• What activity do you like the most?
• What dream do you have most often?
• What do you like/dislike most about your partner?
• What do you like/dislike most about your partner? And find any other questions interesting!

Now, each with his sheet, you will answer twice: once for yourself and once for your partner. At the end (do not rush), you will compare the answers. This way, you will find out how much you knew about your partner and how much he knew about you and you will remember some things. And why not, this game puts you in a position to remember what you like about yourself!

But beware: the game is not a contest, in no case do not brag that one knew more or do not look disappointed that your partner did not know enough!

If you react like this, the game can become dangerous and create a conflict! And the goal is to get closer and have fun, to improve your serious relationship. In the end, make jokes and find common ground. These can help you find new activities together.

For example, maybe you forgot that you like the same actor and you can go to his new movie… or you forgot that you like the same place (maybe but beware: the game is not a contest, in no case do not brag that one knew more or do not look disappointed that your partner did not know enough!

If you react like this, the game can become dangerous and create a conflict! And the goal is to get closer and have fun, to improve your serious relationship. In the end, make jokes and find common ground. These can help you find new activities together.

For example, maybe you forgot that you like the same actor and you can go to his new movie… or you forgot that you like the same place (maybe because a lot of people who have a serious relationship don't leave the house together so often) and set up a date.

This game is extremely useful for newly formed couples, but also - as I explained - for stable ones, in which the partners are so sure of each other that they forget to pay attention to the details - and the details matter!

Have fun!