How to Have The "I Want a Divorce" Conversation?

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And if I would have done things differently from the very beginning- from the day that I told my husband that I didn’t want to be married anymore, if I would have responded better to that and if I would have shown up differently and if I would have behaved differently, I’m imagining that my life would have been a lot easier for the next decade, following that.

And I really do, you know, take the responsibility in the way that I expose that I wanted a divorce. And the reason is because we don’t realize that the very, very, very first steps in the conversation are going to MAKE OR BREAK YOUR FUTURE. So if you start off the conversation in this massive blowout, the other parent is already going to be triggered, you’re going to be triggered, emotions are flaring through the roof and everyone is starting to think of ego, right?

So, everyone’s thinking coming from a very wrong and negative perspective. But when you’re starting off the conversation in a conversation like you and I are having right now, very calm, cool, collected, logical, you’ve thought it through was very methodical. It makes sense to you, to the other parent, to the kids and the conversation flows like this, you’re going to have a much easier time. So, one of the most important lessons that I learned is that if you want a certain outcome, you need to learn how to have that conversation. And it’s very hard to do that because when you’re really thinking about getting a divorce, you’re thinking my whole life is about to change.

My whole life is about to turn upside down. So how can I be methodical and clear and calm just like you are right now when my whole life is about to turn? That’s exactly the answer. If you can’t be cool, calm and collected, it means you’re not ready for it. You’re not ready. You’re not certain of your responses, you’re not certain of what’s about to go on, you’re not feeling confident of the situation, which means you shouldn’t be talking about it at that point.

You should only be talking about divorce and having that conversation when you can have it in this way: cool, calm and collected in a way where you’re expecting yourself, you’re respecting the other parents, you’re respecting the fact that both of you have to rebuild your lives right now. So you’re learning how to co-exist together in a way where you’re going to go your way the other parent’s going to go their way, and you’re going to walk towards your individual goals and the only thing you have in common are your kids.

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