How To Figure Out A Fake Relationship Early And Cope With Its Side Effects

Interpersonal relationships are graded high in every era. Relationship means a lot for people.

People give more importance to relationships than any other thing.

A good relationship can be around relatives or friends. It largely depends on the interactions, understanding, and trust of two people for each other.

It can be mutually dependent or interdependent and there are no expectations whatsoever.

A relationship does not have boundaries of sex, age, or caste.

A good relationship or friendship sees no limits and such a limitless relationship will last forever.

Several emotions are involved in a good relationship between two friends at different times of life. The other type of relationship is with loved ones.

The relationship between two friends and that between lovers is entirely different.

In the relationship of lovers, many untold expectations are involved and it is expected that the partner himself or herself should understand what the other person wants.

This, sometimes, creates some spark between the two and it can lead to big misunderstandings and arguments.

In a friend’s relationship, such things are usually rare and also it is a selfish less, healthy relationship.

As we have seen, relationships are most important and it is applicable in families too. Some relations instantly bloom while many remain stale.

The sore relationships are complex and almost impossible to resolve because both individuals are not ready to initiate.

Family and relationships are the center of human life that can also impact one’s health positively or negatively.

The good thing in our life is we can make good relationships with as many people as we wish to.

But that rarely happens because of our nature or ego.

Every now and then, we find people connecting and disconnecting with others in life.

In reality, a good, long friend is like a treasure and it is not mandatory that both persons are living around each other.

A big difference between real and fake relationships is that it is difficult to judge or understand a fake relationship.

This is because the person who is cheating is always aware of the fact and will never do anything that will disclose his real intentions.

A fake relationship is illusionary, glowing appearance intentionally attempted to hide the reality.

The two people will pretend to be happier but their feeling will not match each other with their actions and words.

Fake relationships are always built around some greed of one or both persons.

There is no emotional involvement between the two and it also lacks real affection and cares for each other.

The main issue is the cheating person will use the other person’s emotions, feelings, and even money through emotional drama.

To understand what the side effects of such a relationship are, we must know the signs of a fake relationship –

Partner will be caring for you only when he/she needs

Pretending to be caring is very common. A person will show caring if and when his needs are getting fulfilled. He will not care when you want him to be caring. There is great selfishness in his attitude.

Not paying attention to you

There could be complete negligence to what you say. They will not bother to listen or attend to what you are saying.

Not only they will lack interest but they will also fail to understand what you are saying.

Even if you understand their intention and quote about fake relationships, they will not pay any attention to it.

Conversations are free of any emotion

The conversation between the two will mostly be one-sided or it will be dry without any emotions.

The only time they will pretend well is when they want a favor or benefit from you.

The conversations in a fake relationship are typecast and dull without any passion. The conversation is the thing that keeps you attached to the other person.

They will pretend well around their friends

When you are around people of their choice then their behavior will suddenly be cheering and loving.

This is because they know it is going to give them some benefit.

These and much other sign is an indicator of a fake relationship. Such people will never share their details with you because they know if the truth is revealed you will demand an explanation.

Though they are not bothered about relations they will not want this situation so as to continue the faking with someone else too.

Fake people don’t keep their words so trusting them will be a big mistake in life.

Often people get some setback when they come across fake people. Let us see what the side effects are when you are in a relationship with fake people –

1. You will feel betrayed

Often fake people will promise you something which they are not intended to keep.

We, in our life, often meet people who are not keen to keep their words. They will convince you of some plan but at the last minute, they will withdraw the plan.

You may feel they have some problem but actually, they had already decided to withdraw while making the plan only.

2. You will be ditched

Fake people are selfish and therefore they will meet and greet people when they see an opportunity to gain something. They will never stand by your side when you need them the most. The same person who withdrew the plan might get back to you if he needs some favor, that’s how fake people make you feel ditched.

3. You will feel you are used

When a person in your relationship calls you with some other person (from whom he is going to be benefitted) and the third person does not appear, your friend will call the meeting off.

So, basically, you are a puppet he wants to show off on your side and when not needed we will throw you off.

4. You will feel ignored

This always happens between the people in a fake relationship. Since the fake person wants a favor from you he tends to listen to all the things you say or ask for.

However, when he feels you are not giving him any benefit, he will ignore what you say or pretend to talk over the phone.

It is more embarrassing that even if he is not busy with anything he will not understand what you are saying. This hurts a lot.

5. They will fool you

Pretending to not getting upset over something is a part of their plan.

They will try to fool you around with this developed nature of not getting upset.

As a human being, every person gets upset or sad about something so what they are trying to show is the false side of theirs.

6. You will feel dumped

When you need the most, they are not available around you. In fact, they will judge when you want help and will stay away from you at particular times.

They can tell you a lot of reasons for not being available and make excuses. However, all the while they will not forget to tell you how much they care for you.

7. You will get hit on the back

Behind your back, these people will never talk good about you. You treat him as a friend but he talks about you behind your back is the most hurting thing.

We can be wrong in judging some people but that is true and it hits us back very badly.

The pain you feel is irrecoverable. Therefore experts say don’t judge the people when they are in front of you but judge them when they are behind.

8. You fail to judge them

Fake people will change in a fraction of a second. At one point they will be nice and the next moment they will become bitter.

This nature will puzzle you and you start feeling that you made some mistake.

They will always try to keep control over you by putting a sense of guilt on you. Sometimes it is planned and sometimes it will happen because they cannot balance the time and energy to remain fake.

9. You will feel ousted

Fake people will never initiate any activity unless they sense a benefit. They won’t initiate to call you but hang out with other people.

They will keep you out of their activities, sometimes to prove them superior, sometimes by nature. Judge those people and stay away from them.

10. You will feel cheated

They will try to please everyone around them and end up making none happy.

Instead, they will back of conveniently when it matters the most. They say yes to all just to avoid rejection or they know they cannot deliver what they promise.

You will meet such people but you need to replace them with trustworthy people.

11. You will feel downtrodden

If success and power are not with you, fake people are not interested in you. They give importance only to powerful and wealthy people.

The people with higher positions are their targets and if you are not the one they will make you feel down.

The other king of fake people will work only if the boss is around but behind the boss’s back, they just relax.

The funny thing is even if the boss knows this he won’t pay much importance to it. They won’t respect you if you are not in the ‘boss’ category.

12. You will feel misled in a relationship

Fake people work hard and spend a lot of time preparing game plans to make and keep friends.

Even if the relationship is not going to last long (which they already know) they work extra to get the maximum benefit out of a relationship period.

Such kinds of people hurt you a lot if you got involved in a relationship with them because in the end, they prove you wrong.

Therefore be careful with the people who work hard for the relationship.

13. You get falsely attracted

Fake people will roam around you and try to attract you. They do anything to get your attention but once you get caught in their web, they will make you play the way they want.

There are many examples of people falling in love with the wrong person, and getting not only hurt but losing wealth too.

They make you buy into the story they tell and once you are done with it, they will use you for their purpose.

14. You feel distracted

Fake people always make a relationship built emotionally by catching one of your weak points.

They will distract you from their fact and identity and try to show you a different world around them.

The major subject of distraction will be gossip.

They keep on telling you something which was never there or you might not believe but they tell it in such a way that at one point even you are forced to believe.

So distraction through gossip is their best way to hide their fakeness.

All the side effects above are going to affect you sooner or later so it is better to learn to read persons around you and especially the one who gives more attention than others.

Reading such persons about their actual interests before getting into a relationship is advisable.

There are few tips you can implement if you identify a fake person –

Get angry:

When you show anger fake people are sure to fade away. They will realize you are not the one they can target.

Keep distance

It is better to stay away once you recognize the reality of a person. Do not entertain him anymore.

Control your engagement

If you can’t keep them away from your life, ensure you don’t ask questions or don’t get engaged.

After a long repetition of this, they will go away.

Fake people are not about you

It is not about you but them so don’t interact with them anymore.

Keep yourself in the upper position

Don’t go down to their level of stupidity. Always prove to them you have an upper hand.

Indicate the fakeness

Make them aware that you know about them and warn them not to keep any expectations from you.

Find out more

If you are unsure of what you found out, try to dig more information about them to confirm your finding.

Seek advice

If you can’t make any decision about such a person, you can seek advice from the people you trust and respect more.

A good relationship can be maintained even if you don’t meet or talk to the other person frequently. Both the individuals are assured that there is a person who came raise his/her hands in difficult times.