How to be strong

Strongness is about being able to win unexpectedly. Sustainability is about survival. The purpose of firmness is to bloom. ”~ Jamais Cascio

The plague has forced us to withdraw from people, to isolate ourselves, and to keep to ourselves.

It may seem like you are in a situation where you do not have many options. You cannot live freely with your friends. You can't have fun the way you did. Your prospects for dating and entertainment are limited. These challenges can bring feelings of loneliness, deepen longing for a relationship, and enhance your innate desire to communicate.

I know how easy it is to fall into the trap of despair, loneliness, and disability and to wait for better times to come.

I am not married now, but my life has forced me to accept celibacy in the past. I had previously spent ten years trying to find love online. I created drama, frustration, and a lot of pain. I have reached the point of emotional exhaustion and need to rebuild my self-esteem and regain my strength. Then I continued to detoxify for two years and never looked back.

This time, I focused entirely on building a wonderful relationship with myself. I learned to hold, support, and feed myself. I learned how to enjoy singleness. I embraced loneliness and learned to relax my uncomfortable feelings.

All the methods and strategies I have shared below have helped me find the inner resources for a better and more fulfilling life as one.

As someone who strongly believes in the proverb "When life gives you a lemon, make a lemon," I encourage you to go inside to find your strength. Stop waiting and start prospering now.

Since finding love can be more difficult right now, use this time to learn more about yourself, deepen your relationship with yourself, and form friendships with your loneliness.

Ultimately, we are the architect of our destiny. We all have the power to decide what we want to hear and what we need to do to be successful rather than just survive. If you do these things, you will end up being stronger, clearer, and more empowered.

Here are a few suggestions on how you can use this pandemic to your advantage:

1. Be gentle with yourself.

You have good reason to be everywhere emotionally now. One day, things may seem bright and simple. One day, you may feel downhearted and discouraged. Know. Admit it. Feel it. Don't expect too much of yourself. Don't be too hard on yourself.

Let’s face it: these are the unprecedented times. You need to adjust your expectations to the current situation. It will feel difficult and challenging at times. Allow everything. Without judgment. That is what you are, and you are doing your best.

Take one day at a time. Have a plan or structure in place every day if that helps you move forward. If traveling is difficult, take care of yourself and your priorities. Through meditation and meditation, you can reduce your anxiety and loneliness, experience daily blessings (no matter how boring and limited), and increase your happiness and satisfaction.

2. Be your friend and your loneliness.

Have a day with your loneliness. Let us call it the "Time of Peace and Far Away." You can do it if you drink your morning coffee or smoothie, or whenever you feel frustrated with loneliness. Just sit down, turn off all distractions (like your phone), and be present with your emotions.

Get a sense of loneliness in your body. Feel how warm or cold it is. What color. In any case. Find out why you feel the way you do. What caused this feeling? What is the meaning behind this feeling? Does your loneliness have a specific message for you?

Treat it like a wave of energy flowing through your body - the energy needs to be released and transferred. Like all other waves, it comes and goes. All feelings are temporary.