How Positive Parenting Can Strengthen Your Relationship with Your Child

In order to grow your child to be a better person, you as a parent should be better at the first point. Nowadays, we are not giving importance to better parenting and not becoming a better parent for our children is the reason for more crime rate in our societies.

Our children are our creations and whatever character they are reflecting is from the path we have shown to them. It is very important to become a good parent in order to make your child a better person. Our children observe how we are responding to others; how we are treating people and similarly they keenly observe each and every move we take on a daily basis. So make sure that you take care of this thing, so that your children can learn better things day by day from you and can able to make their life better.

There are numerous ways to better parenting, but I am going to show you the top ways to grow your child in a better way along with my life experience. Here they are:

Listen actively: Most parents tend to think that whatever their children talk to them is useless and they fail to listen actively when their kids try to express their views to them. Whenever our children talk, either we tell them to stop talking or we are busy doing some other things. This is the wrong way to treat your child because when you are not listening actively to what your kids are talking about, then their self-esteem will decrease and they think of themselves as less worthy.

So next time when your child is talking to you, try to listen to them actively and give unconditional attention to them. Even though you are not in the mood to listen to them, then at least fake it to them that your attention is towards them. Children do not wait for your free time to express their opinions and views with you, but whenever they want to talk to you, they will approach you and talk to you instantly.

Self-esteem: It is important for us to boost our child’s self-esteem from the time they are in young age. We might not be so fortunate to develop our self-esteem with the help of our parents or from people around us, but it is our responsibility that our child should not fall into the trap of the same situation as us.

I was raised from a young age with no self-esteem. My parents have an abundance of time to de-motivate me, but they have no time to encourage me and due to this I was seen as a useless person among the people in the society I was living. My parents even discourage me in front of other people and because of this; I was not considered an important person. Some people think that I am not mentally a strong person. Still, my parents have not realized this and still continue doing the same thing which they were doing for 30 years. I was attacked emotionally many times by people when I was a kid and due to this I always remain in a sad state. I don’t even enjoy my school and college days as I was not having self-esteem within me.

Based on the experience that I faced in my life, I realized that raising self-esteem in our children is the most important factor that every parent should understand. The day after my marriage, I even told my wife that she can beat or scold the children but she should not de-motivate or discourage them at any point in time, because my parent was not like that and I can better understand its consequences.

Limit your scolding on children: Parents while scolding their children should note that they should not scold them more often. Children tend to do mistakes because they are very innocent, but what we as a parent do is that we scold them by shouting at them or beating them or being very harsh on them. By doing this more often, our children tend to develop fear toward us unconsciously.

During my childhood days, I was scolded by my parents more often. My mother has shown some limits in scolding me but my father was very harsh on me. Daily when he returns home from work, he beats me, shouts at me, and even uses abusive words which as a kid I should not listen to, unconsciously a big fear developed in my mind toward my father. My father was not aware of better parenting and as there was no one to educate him, he uses to scold me on regular basis.

The impact of scolding me by my father on regular basis has made a bad impact on my emotional state. Then, I developed the biggest fear in my mind. Below are some examples:

1. Fear of talking freely to my father

2. Fear of talking to strange people

3. Fear of talking to my teacher

4. Fear of behaving freely

5. Fear of eating food freely

6. Fear of participating in any event

7. Fear of expressing my views and opinions

8. Fear of remaining confident

9. Fear of something uncertain will happen at any time

10. Fear of coming out of my comfort zone and many more

So make sure that you take care not to scold your children too much, because my father did the same mistake and leave me in between the people with low self-esteem. Because of low self-esteem and fear in my mind, I never took steps to develop my career and due to this, it was sad to tell you that my father, even though he is now 62 years old, wakes up in the morning to work and work hard all the day. Daily I feel sad thinking about this, but we have no option left apart from working for someone to receive a salary on monthly basis.

Become a role model: Yes. Being a parent to your children, you should also treat your children in such a manner that they should see you as a role model in their life. Make sure that they are learning good things from you and your behavior should be good when they are around you. Parent thinks that their children do not observe things around them but they are wrong because children are a good observer than us and they are very curious to do any kind of activity. You may think that they are busy playing but their mind is too much active in observing us all at the time. Their success and failure are built on the basis of how their parents are treating them.

Control your emotions: Human being sometimes expresses their emotions in a very strong manner and its consequences could be worse or could be better. So we have to control our emotions like anger, sadness, excitement, and happiness in all circumstances. Children are mischievous and we should not always shout at them or show our anger towards them. Do let your children play around as much as they can and leave them to enjoy their life. Show your anger towards your children whenever they do anything wrong and it is necessary because if we don’t show our anger whenever they do mistakes then they will grow up with an assumption that, whatever they are doing is right.

Emotion like anger has to be expressed whenever there is a need, but not always necessary. Showing uncontrolled anger towards our children will reduce their self-esteem in a very bad way. I can say that instead of being harsh on them, try to make them understand and I can bet that they will not repeat it again.

Unconditional love: Whenever you can express unconditional love toward your children. Try to dedicate quality time on a regular basis just for your children and in this time, play with them, have fun with them, and take them out for an outing, there are many things that you can do in order to spend a good time with your children. Nowadays, we are so busy with our work that we do not spend time with our children and its impact is very bad that our children feel alone most of the time. So it is advisable to spend quality time with your children on regular basis.

Conclusion:

So to conclude, what I can say is that your children are your life and for them, you are their life. Always think and feel that your child is a god’s gift. There are many people in this world who are not fortunate to get this gift and if you have a child then you should be more thankful to god. Just like we take care of the things when someone gifted us, we should take care of our child in every situation of their life.