How important it is for a person to be nourished by love!

love is not your output of all you can to the other person, but the output of what the other person needs.

love is not your self-righteousness for the good of the other person, but seeing what the other person needs

This love includes many, many kinds of love, the love of parents for their children, the love between husband and wife, the love between lovers, and the love between friends. No matter which relationship you are in, your love should be what the other person needs, not what you should.

The other person likes to eat apples, but you want to give them a truckload of bananas say how good they are to eat, and make them take it. However, the other party does not like, you still wonder, bananas so good things, you do not want, I also gave you a truck, simply wolf heart and dog lung. But you ignore the fact that the other party likes apples, even if you only send an apple then sending a truckload of bananas can make the other party happy. See what the other person needs instead of forcing what you think is good on them.

The most important thing is that depression can lead to suicide in the most serious cases, and on September 4, a 21-year-old girl committed suicide by jumping off a cliff in Emei Mountain. When people found her suicide note, they found out that she was suffering from depression.

What happened to this girl, we don't know, but I do know that she must have suffered terribly and in a way that was too much for her to bear. The scariest part of depression is not getting treatment, which only makes it worse, and on top of that, it requires the care of those around you, especially family members. It doesn't take too many people to be able to have moral support, one or two are enough. Be there for each other when they need you, be able to understand each other's illness, be able to understand each other's pain, and be able to understand each other's thoughts and behaviors.

Many people will think that it is because a person can not think to get depressed depression is not sudden will happen, always and a person's upbringing and thinking patterns have a certain relationship. How many parents are gnashing their teeth while saying "I love you" to their children "I'm doing this for your good", in the eyes of outsiders, parents take good care of their children, but often this kind of care makes the children feel great pain. The child's pain comes from - why parents take care of their children. The child's pain comes from - why do my parents clearly say they love me, but I feel unhappy, depressed, and angry, I really should not, I am unfilial, my parents are so good to me, but I do not accept, do not know how to be grateful, it is all because of my problem, it is all my fault. Because the love felt by the child and the love given by the parents is contradictory and conflicting, and this contradiction and conflict is not overnight, it is accompanied by a person's growth, and being in this contradiction and conflict inside for a long time will only make a person more confused and see the world in a confused way.

The real pain comes from my parents, who expect too much from me. Since I was a child, my parents said they loved and loved me, but to achieve their goals, they did too many things that made me suffer and helpless and said too many things that hurt my self-esteem, saying that they were for my good. I fell into a deep sense of self-blame. I often ask myself why I am so miserable in the face of my parents' love. No matter what kind of person I am, it seems that my parents can always find fault with me, and I seem to be worthless in their eyes, but they say that they love me.

Is it that hard to ask your parents to say something encouraging or complimentary?

We just want an apple, and the other party prefers to give you a truckload of bananas, you do not accept if wrong, no of should not, you are sorry to others for your hard work picking bananas, for your hard work loading the fruits of the labor of the truck. This feeling is really painful.

The cause of depression is also not because a person grew up without experiencing the love of their parents, some people also grew up being scolded and beaten, but rather the more leathery. The cause of depression is complex and there is no fixed explanation; it has biological factors, sociological factors, and psychological factors. If a person's biological factors are somatic factors that predispose to depression and have a susceptibility, while other factors (life events, developmental history, coping skills) play a more prominent role, they can all be causative. Early-onset depression is associated with a positive family history of depression, so people with depressive symptoms in an older generation will have a higher chance of having a descendant with depression than those without a genetic history. However, genetics is not the only determinant, as some families without a genetic history of depression can have people with depression in their offspring.

So the cause of depression is a result of multiple factors, not just anything.

When there are depressed people around us, we should try to understand them as much as possible, care for them, listen to them patiently, don't say some words that are percussive and reproachful, encourage them to seek medical help, encourage them to have confidence in themselves, and encourage them not to give up.

Depression, is a cold of the mind, the cold is not terrible, and as long as with treatment, will always get better, For any disease, no treatment is undoubtedly aggravated.

We, humans, are senior animals, we need the nourishment of love so that our hearts will grow lush and brilliant, depriving the right to love and be loved is undoubtedly the greatest punishment for a person. Learning how to love is a lesson that each of us should learn.