How I Was Hacked By My Closest friend

Trust is the most important key in human relationships and without it, you can never believe in the other person anymore. Whenever I hear the word trust I feel like to laugh. I experienced some of the harshest ways of break of trust in my life, and this is something I still haven’t forgotten about.

My closest friend hacked me and got access to both my Facebook account, my hangout, and my emails by guessing my password and using other hacking techniques that I am not aware of.

What does it feel like to have your social media hacked?

It feels absolutely terrible, it is like your privacy is totally taken from you. You feel like when the other person is looking at you, they know everything about you, they could tell when you tell the truth and when you lie. When you smile for real and when you fake it. You become a property for the other person, you are sold to the other person without any permission and it is a hard feeling. Now imagine if the person who hacks your data is a very close friend that you love and cherish.

Imagine putting so much trust in someone who would spy on you and your family without your knowledge. Imagine sitting with the person every day and talking for hours about things they already know about you.

This happened to me three years ago when I was pursuing my undergraduate studies. A classmate of mine who happened to be a close friend of mine had dared to try to guess my password and access my accounts. I didn’t know that until my last year of undergraduate, so I was been hacked for two years without my knowledge. What is funny is that I felt I was stabbed several times as many classmates of mine, and students in the same school knew about it, and I was the only one walking in the school hallways without having the slightest idea about what was happening. My friend or my ex-friend made me feel completely like a loser.

I never knew what motivated him to hack me, even today I still don’t know. He could just ask me anything, literally anything and I could tell him. There was no need to break my heart into thousands of pieces.

I had many questions to ask myself, I started asking myself if I was too stupid to allow another person to hack me? Was it too easy for him to guess my password because he knew all my life details, why did I allow that? I was too angry and hurt.

Speaking about forgiveness

It took me time to forgive him, and I did so without even receiving an apology from him. What hurts me most is that when I confronted him, he totally denied it saying that he wouldn’t have the time to do something similar. Like even his argument was not strong at all, he didn’t even care to come up with a suitable lie.

I mean at the end of the day, how can they be trusted for anything else after what they did? I know I’m not perfect too, and I do mistakes as anyone else, but for me, if I kept him in my life I would invite further betrayal easily.

Forgiveness is a strength, it liberates the person who decides to forgive. I forgave him not for him, but for my own peace of mind because I deserve a better behavior, better friends and a better life.

What happened was a huge betrayal of trust and invasion of privacy, and it took me so long to decide to stop being a friend with the person because I simply cared a lot about him, he was my friend, he was close, he was dear and at least I thought I was important for him. It took me so long to make the decision because I was emotionally unstable and I found it hard to let go of him despite the way he treated me. I couldn’t believe that what happened was real, it took me months to process it.

I indeed forgave him without an apology, but if he shows up tomorrow in front of me, will I be able to speak to him or even look at him? I think I should take more time to find the answer to this question.

I guess life teaches us how to choose our friends in a weird way. I guess I learned my lesson the hard way. What happened made me stronger, and I am now more attentive when it comes to choosing my friends. I am kind to everyone for sure, but not everyone deserves a table in my life anymore.

To everyone, please take good care of yourself, treat everyone with kindness but do not open your hearts to everyone as sometimes the closest person can have two different faces and trust me when they show you the other face the feeling can be unbearable. Finally, I would like to say that Being hurt is something we can not avoid, but standing the hurt is an option. I chose to end my friendship with one of the people I loved the most because I didn’t deserve to get hurt. I deserved better.