How I Check The True Personality Of People

Unlike computers, people's minds and thoughts can't be read. But some common traits are so obvious among most people. By that, you can easily figure out what kind of a person they are and what you can expect from them.

Now undoubtedly, it's not certain at everything, but it can be so close if you can observe deeply with a bit of patience.

Now the question can be, why do we even need to read people. I believe most of the time, our life can be so much easier through strangers' kindness. But trusting someone beforehand without checking their true intention or how they behave when the situation is different can be really helpful for our further heartbreak.

1. Words vs. Action tells a lot

If I have learned one thing in my life from my heart breaks throughout my life is that never trust words alone. No matter if it's family, friends, or someone special who told you that you are special to them.

Look and deeply observe what they say and what they actually are doing. Are they really keeping their every promise or just making those. It doesn't matter how silly or tiny those are. It doesn't take much afford to say something that they are going to do or want to do in the future.

But are they really doing or actually giving afford to the doing part instead of just bullshitting on your face? Can they keep an appointment? Or calling or texting or meeting you at the scheduled time even though they are swamped. And most importantly, ask them for help and see if they even show up.

2. Observe them under pressure

You can truly understand a person when they are stressed and how they are behaving at that time. As human beings, we have our anger or frustration, but that doesn't mean you can lose control and act otherwise under tremendous pressure.

Roll with them and observe them how they behave when it's a challenging moment for them. It might sound funny, but I have learned so much about people's true personalities by punching them in the face, not necessarily directly physically but maybe mentally creating pressure on them.

I choked them with words. And I observed if they got irrationally angry, are they completely changing into a new person that you have never imagined.

Are they overly bitter in arguing? Are they arguing to learn or to win at any cost without even taking it into consideration that how you might feel? You can know so much just by this method.

3. Behave under pressure & responsibility.

I learned this when I was at Army university. Besides education, we had to do lots of physical activity things, etc. Place someone under enormous pressure and tell them their work is done when they will finish this task.

Just when they reach that point and are exhausted and happy that the task is over. Ask them to do something else that is really hard to do again - just observe their reaction and how they behave at that point.

Undoubtedly, they would be irritated but take notes of the curve about how much is their tolerance power. It sure will help you to understand them better in your downtime and how they will act when they will be needed.

4. Compliment

Compliment them - a lot. Flatter them with words. Praise about something that they didn't even ever hear about themselves.

Do they play their accomplishments down and show genuine humbleness and don't change their behavior towards you.

Or instead, they are just reveling in pride and gas up as hell and behaving a little superior at later time? Now you know the answer.

5. Lending money

This one is just so obvious. Lend them money and see if they return it on time or even talk about it. Are they giving you back without you having to ask from them? To me, if I give someone $50 and they never give me back still, that $50 is well spent to me. Now I know about the person on a much deeper level.

6. Notice when they are drunk

Personally, it's a fun time for me to observe people while they are literally drunk. A drunk person might not be conscious, but it might be the best time to know them. See carefully how they behave when they are drunk or high and if they are aggressive or overly emotional.

Are they just being super cold and sleeping or just hitting on everything that is moving. It means a lot of things. Like they may have been going under deep issues. Too deep to get entangled with, which you might won't be able to know when they are sober.

7. Idol and mentality

Who is the idol of a person can tell many things about that person. Who do they look up to or try to take advice, motivation, or follow to get inspiration and try to be like them?

Do they take responsibility for their life, or do they just look for someone or something to blame on every time? And also, do they believe in 'Don't hate the player, hate the game!"

You really need to be conscious about this sort of person. World is a dangerous place to them and they are way too busy to be concerned about themselves; they won't be that much bothered to make you stay safe.

8. Reading

Reading takes too much patience and work. If someone reads is a knowledgable person. I don't want to say if a person who reads is a good or bad person.

It's just they are knowledgeable and if you crave knowledge and like to talk about deep stuff. They are literally the good person to talk to and gather knowledge from.

9. Fitness

Body can tell a lot about a person. Observe someone and look at their physique. Are they fat, or are they so thin and got no muscle.

If they are not underlying in any medical conditions or sick which are making them being unfit, that means they lack discipline and going to have much more bad health in the future.

10. Behave

How someone treats children, older people, animals, staff, waiters, personnel, poor people, the homeless, etc. can show a lot about a person's personality.

Last words

Every person is different. By no means these points will be accurate for every person. With all of that said, we still need to be compassionate towards others without judging the person, even if they don't fall under those criteria.

We are human, and we should not judge others harshly. Everyone is going under stuff. And everyone has lots of shits going on in their life. Even if a person is unreliable, unhelpful, undisciplined, overly emotional, or rock hard-hearted, or simply a rude dickhead doesn't mean we need to treat them badly or stay away from them.

It's just you need to consider this when you are about to think about a deep connection with the person in the near future. As we all got to take precautions. Loving others is awesome. But self-love is more important; otherwise, how can you spread love when you are broken inside and has no joy in life just because you have been broken-hearted so many times by so many people and are simply tired.