How Can You Recognize Emotional Manipulation

Do you feel addicted to an emotional manipulator? Do you have a habit of blaming the other person for your feelings of frustration, anger, guilt, and dissatisfaction? Do you think that you can get rid of all the things that are expected of you?

It's not easy, but you can do it. Let's face it, emotional manipulators have a highly developed perception of the people around them and can feel your feelings and recognize them very easily when it's time to retire.

At that very moment, they become reasonable people for a short period of time, so that after a while they return to their selfish habits. Here are some ways you can recognize emotional manipulation and how to avoid it:

Approaching honesty as a means of communication in the face of emotional manipulation is doomed to failure

You will state something that both you and the other person know is true and this statement of yours will certainly be interpreted. Example: "I'm very upset you forgot it's my birthday."

Answer: “It saddens me that you think I forgot it was your birthday. I'm going through a very difficult time, full of stress and I didn't want to bother you. You're right, I should have called you and congratulated you on your birthday. Sorry."

Even when you hear these words, inside you realize that the person is not really sorry at all, but as soon as they say these words you have little to say.

In any case, if you feel that this is the game that is being directed against you, do not give up in any way. You should not accept excuses just for the sake of pretending that everything is fine.

Rule number one: if you're dealing with an emotional blackmailer, trust your instincts. Trust what your inner voice tells you. As soon as a manipulator finds a breach in your defense system, it is remembered by them and will be used again and again against you.

An emotional manipulator is often helped by the role of the person who is willing to help you

If you ask them to help you with something, they will always agree, in case they didn't offer it right away. Then, when you say "yes, thank you!" he gives the impression through non-verbal messages that he does not really want to do this.

If you bring the truth to the surface, they will turn the situation against you by making you feel guilty for not trusting them, for being an unreasonable person thinking these things about them, or other such tricks. Rule number two: If an emotional manipulator said "yes", make sure they take full responsibility for their response.

Don't be betrayed by the sighs and emotional subtleties they use, if they don't want to do something, let them tell you directly.

They put you in the position of a madman

These are the people who say something and later make sure that they are not the ones who said that. If you are in a relationship where it is necessary to keep track of the words that have been said and you begin to question your own health, you are facing a master of emotional manipulation.

An emotional manipulator is an expert in interpreting events, rationalizing them, and justifying his or her own behaviors. They can lie in such a subtle way that they can look at black and call it white and they can convince you that you can begin to question your own mental health.

Over time, this is so dangerous that it can affect your sense of reality. Warning: Emotional manipulation is very dangerous. If you are in such a relationship, move away from that person.

Guilt

Emotional manipulators are excellent culprits. They can make you feel guilty for talking too loud or too slow, because you were too emotional or because you were too cold because you cared, or because you didn't care, or because you offered them or because you didn't offer them.

Emotional manipulators rarely express their needs and desires in a direct way, everything they get, they do through emotional manipulation. Guilt is not the only tool they use, but it is one of the most used and one of the most powerful. Most of us are conditioned to do anything to reduce our feelings of guilt.

Another tool used by such people is sympathy. An emotional manipulator plays the role of the victim very well. They inspire around them a great need to be supported and encouraged. If you help them, they will tell you that they did not expect it or that they did not need your help.

Emotional manipulators fight dirty

They do not deal with situations directly. They have a habit of talking behind your back and making others tell you things that they themselves would not have the courage to say.

Their behavior is passive-aggressive, which means that they find subtle ways to convey that they are not very happy people inside. They will tell you what you want to hear and if you dare to draw their attention to their behavior most of the time they will smile innocently like innocent beings.

If you have a headache, and emotional manipulator will have a brain tumor

No matter what situation you are in, and emotional manipulator has already been in a similar situation, only it has been ten times more difficult than the one you are in.

It is quite difficult to feel emotionally connected to an emotional manipulator because they have a habit of easily deviating from the subject and bringing themselves back into the spotlight. If he draws their attention to their behavior, they will certainly pretend to be hurt and call you "selfish."

Even if this is not the case, you are unable to prove it. Do not bother. Trust your instincts and stay away from such people.

Emotional manipulators have the ability to have an emotional impact on the emotional climate of those around them

When an emotional manipulator is sad or angry, the whole room is sad with him, this is one of the ways you think you can make him feel better. Stay around this person for a long time and you will soon forget about your own personal desires and needs.

Emotional manipulators do not have a sense of responsibility

They do not take any responsibility for themselves or their behavior, it is always about what other people have done to them. One of the easiest ways to discover an emotional manipulator is by acknowledging their attempt to share deeply personal information with you.

Initially, you may perceive this type of person as very sensitive, emotionally open, and very vulnerable. Believe me when I tell you that an emotional manipulator is as emotionally open like a mad pitbull.