How Can You Overcome Infidelity?

Marriage infidelity is very painful. Unfortunately, more and more couples are divorcing because of infidelity and thus end up not believing in marriage, or considering this a joke.

As you know, nothing is easy in life, so even in love things are not simple, on the contrary, sometimes they become very complicated. Some say about love that it is not at all like in fairy tales, in life the happy ending is by no means free. Every marriage has ups and downs, it has periods when the attraction is great, but also stages when boredom and distance appear in the love relationship.

How do you know the relationship isn't going well?

Did you get to that point where you think it's about that cruel reality - marital infidelity - that you can't ignore no matter how much you want? It's time to dump her and move on.

The reasons for marital infidelity are:

The desire to make a career, to enter into another relationship of interest.

The feeling of unhappiness that appears against the background of the so-called empty nest syndrome, of the desire to be no longer with the one who loved you for so long, to make your life different in another way.

• Mismatch of character or interests.

• Lack of enthusiasm, boredom.

• High-interest love.

• The change of personality of one of the two partners.

• The desire to experience life differently.

• The vices that lead to incompatibility in the marital relationship.

• How do you know if your partner is cheating on you?

In most cases, some aspects betray that your boyfriend is cheating on you. Usually, the one who cheats will try to hide this and will even have the impression that he can do what he wants and will not be discovered. Unfortunately, nowadays it is naive to think that you can still live in anonymity, that is:

Without anyone recognizing you on the street.

Without anyone seeing you somewhere in a public place.

Or without being filmed in supermarkets, malls, cafes, and restaurants, or in areas where there are so many video surveillance systems and where advanced technology can capture almost anything. Such products provide perfect surveillance for any home, space, place, store, etc. Images can be viewed live on your PC, tablet, or mobile phone by simply connecting to the Internet.

If you suspect that you are cheating, you can install such gadgets at home, especially now that there are tracking systems that are so small that you can't even see them. It's pretty easy nowadays to find out for sure if the person you thought was your partner has someone else, having fun in clubs, bars, and cafes, or going to a hotel room giggling to spend the night.

To gather evidence, you can even opt for the help of a detective, so that the person being pursued will certainly not be able to escape.

How to deal with your partner if he is an angry person?

And yet what do you do when you suspect your husband is cheating on you? If it's just a suspicion, we might say it's not that bad, but if you have clear evidence, the pain gets worse and things can get complicated. Whatever you do, the one who cheats will not acknowledge the truth and will surely become an angry person if you tell him something about marital infidelity.

His state of irascibility, of getting angry quickly at anything, is explained by the fact that he is not with the person for whom he is currently attracted.

What do you do when an episode of nervous breakdown occurs?

The angry one gets angry at some point and thus expresses the frustrations he has accumulated. From a certain point of view, this can help because it breaks the anger, reduces the frustrations. Given the fact that anger is blind, that it helps nothing, we can say that reducing it can make it easier to find a solution to the conflict.

At first, the nervous breakdowns are intense but gradually diminish. There must be a break between them so that the quarrel does not feed continuously. The other partner must know how to settle the conflict, empathize with the nervous one, ask the questions in such a way as to encourage the explanations, to release all the frustrations, to consume the anger.

Advantages of conflict resolution:

• The nervous one, who bursts out, will be amazed to see the other trying to empathize, to understand his emotions as if he cared about him. It becomes suspicious at first and that's why it will probably continue in the same tone. If he receives the same unexpected treatment, appreciation, and understanding, he can be gradually determined to express himself more calmly.

• Through empathy you can identify the emotional state of the partner who is bursting, you can observe the tension in the voice, how it emits certain grimaces, how it accentuates certain words, how bad the conflict situation created is.

• Through empathy, you can change the way you say certain things to lead the other in the direction you want to go. You can gradually get him to express all his frustrations and find out the causes that led to the marriage's infidelity and its destruction.

What do you do if your partner is a perfectionist?

It is difficult to live with such a person. Whatever you do, nothing satisfies her unless everything is perfect. In marriage, one who is a perfectionist is not in the habit of praising, but only of criticizing.

Having very high standards, already clearly set in his mind, sometimes even impossible to achieve, will become difficult to bear in marriage, will become stressful and annoying no matter how much patience you have.

You can quickly lose your interest, passion, love for such a partner. Eventually, you end up not paying enough attention to it and find that the relationship is not going as well as it used to.

In addition, he is not surprised that he also agrees with this, he even admits that he has reached infidelity and that he agrees with the divorce because he has the impression that his standards are different.