Holding onto our Feminine Energy

‘Feminine Energy,’ a phrase that’s been thrown around recently. Today’s world invites women to explore the interesting and complex topic of balance being independent while staying in their feminine energy; the battle within all women in today’s society.

As women have entered the workforce, advanced their careers and been on the same playing field as men in the workforce and at home, it’s crystal clear, women struggle to keep their feminine energy or even let it visit their daily lives for even if just a moment.

The truth is men and women ARE different and that will always be naturally a vast difference. Our differences are our strengths and we need to embrace them instead of fight them. Men and women balance each other out and that's a good thing. We do have common traits as humans that also can be equally strong and leading just in different but the same ways.

People say ‘femininity’ can be described as soft, vulnerable, nurturing, submissive among many other characteristics in a societal form but I believe it’s instinctual as well. Is the level of femininity expected from women regardless of circumstance unreasonable, yes, but the natural inclination of the behavior I do believe is natural to most women and suppressing this instinct does more harm than good.

The reality is, women, do not have to choose between the two. We just have to implement the thought process and daily practice of being assertive and still maintaining the composure to nurture our feminine energy. Strength and softness are not opposites. When we catch ourselves raising our voices or getting a ‘tone’ we have to mentally remind ourselves to switch it up. Be direct and honest but keep the same tone that is neutral. It's a practice that can make a world of difference in gaining the workplace respect as well as navigate our personal relationships.

As women, we’re labeled ‘emotional’ for good reason because we are! But we can navigate the business world and even our personal relationships. Making mental notes on practicing a neutral tone daily, gives us more power in meetings or in conflict. People respect even keel tones and it’s just about practicing the rhythm which can take a while to ingrain in your routine.

So what are some tips and tricks to maintain your softness for both efficiency, control and peace?

For me personally, I've implemented a mindful mental note. I catch myself when I'm veering and talk myself down. If I start to get heated or 'emotional' I remind myself to stay neutral and lead with compassion and directness with an even tone. 

Self care should always be a staple of your day or at least your week. What keeps you sane and feeling present? A walk, the gym, meditation, the sauna; whatever keeps you feeling regulated, do that as much as you can even if once a week. 

Stay present. It's so easy to have memories or worrying about the future but push the thoughts out and remind yourself to stay present. Breathwork and journaling is a good way to do this.

Recognize your feelings and emotions. Allow yourself to feel, react and move on. Don't feel guilty on how you feel, allow it and let it pass.

Boundaries are a huge part of a healthy emotional life. If you see a pattern of interaction that is not for your best try to navigate that and push it off with boundaries. If oversharing or reacting to someone when they bring up certain topics, work on a game plan to ensure you limit that exposure. Takes some practice and will not happen overnight. 

Connecting with Nature is huge, at least for me. I love being outside, taking walks and admiring nature. This is my form of meditation.

Language is something I think we should practice being mindful of. If you notice certain reactions with the language you use, try to alter your words or the thoughts associated with the possibly offensive language you're using. Maybe take a beat before responding if that helps with the thought process which leads to how you speak. I think it's much easier to navigate through conflict if there's less to 'nit pick' because we get emotional and say other words with tones that are not helpful to the conversation, which are then used against us by focusing on that part of the conversation instead of the matter at hand. 

I think staying in our feminine energy, while keeping a clear, concise and direct attitude will serve us as women and keep us level headed and communicative without losing the plot. If we do this in business and home life, we will not have to turn it on and off when it comes to the separation of home life and work life. It will start to come naturally and you'll be in control and spiral much less in life. This does not mean you're not feeling the same feelings you always would, you're just handling those feelings in a practical and accepting way that serves your mental health and state of mind.

Happy Balancing!

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