Habits That Can Ruin Your First Date with an Asian Woman

Many men from around the world find Asian women stunningly beautiful. With their unique and admirable culture, traits, and traditions, there’s no reason why foreign men wouldn’t want to date them.

You may have read it on online surveys and seen it in documentaries. It’s no secret that most Western men prefer “Asian” as their racial dating preference rather than women in their country.

According to an article from NPR, researchers gathered data from various dating sites and apps and found that most men respond to Asian women better than most races.

When it comes to dating, the rules aren’t always the same. And when you add “race” into the mix, things can get more complicated. Asian women are different in a lot of ways compared to their Western counterparts.

You may have dated a lot in the past, but have you ever dated an Asian woman? If you haven’t, you’re going to need a lot of preparation and know more about their culture before dating one.

If you want to be in a long-term relationship with an Asian woman, you must start from scratch and work your way up. For one, what you do and how you treat her on your first date will determine if you’re a “hit” or “miss.” Even if you have good intentions, it’s easy to make mistakes that will turn your date upside down. But don’t let any blunders stop you. Besides, what’s a date for if you’re not up for the challenge and give it your all, right?

First impressions last, which is why it’s crucial to identify the many red flags that you unconsciously commit on your first date. Steer clear of these deal-breakers to score a second date with Asian women:

Arriving late

One rule of thumb on first dates: don’t be late. Try your best to be punctual, especially if you’re picking her up. Keep in mind that you can’t control everything. There will be unexpected situations (or things) that can make you run late.

Take, for example, if you’re in her home country. Driving through unfamiliar streets and signs, even with the right tools and technology, is challenging and time-consuming. Not to mention, asking for directions can be difficult due to the language barrier.

It helps if you consider Murphy’s Law: “Anything that can go wrong will go wrong.” It’s not about getting the job done perfectly, but it’s taking a step ahead of everything. Just think that Asian women are strict on punctuality, and they consider running late as a mortal sin.

So, if it’s your first time traveling in Asia, make sure to stay in a hotel where the staff can help you with directions. If money is not an issue, you can rent a car with a driver who knows how to speak English.

Delays are also inevitable due to road mishaps, weather conditions, traffic jams, and road maintenance. If you’ve done everything you can but still can’t make it on time, send her a brief explanation of your situation and apologize. You can tell her everything later. Don’t worry, though, because Asian women know how to forgive.

Here’s a fact: Asian women have different perspectives on punctuality. For instance, Japanese women take it very seriously. If you’re late, she will perceive you as disrespectful. Filipino women, on the other hand, have a relaxed view of punctuality, except during formal events and occasions.

Focusing on the outcome

Your goal on your first date should be to score a chain of dates after. However, it’s hard not to think about the outcome: Will she be your girlfriend? Will she eventually become your wife? Focusing too much on “the outcome” rather than “the purpose” can be anxiety-inducing and can spoil the mood.

First dates should be chill where you learn more about each other, so just be yourself, and everything will be fine. If a connection is formed, great! If you both agree to see each other again, wonderful! If not, it’s alright. As the saying goes, “leave it better than you found it.”

It’s rare for Asian women to look forward to an outcome on a first date, especially when dating a foreign man. Others will take one step at a time.

Talking a lot or not at all

First dates tend to be nerve-wracking, and it’s okay to be nervous. However, being anxious can cause you to stay silent or talk too much – either isn’t a good look during a first date.

Before your date, practice relaxation techniques and conversation starters. This will help elevate your first date experience from boring to interesting.

Talking about past relationships

It might be tempting to ask about her past relationship(s) on the first date, but you might open a wound in her heart. This will not only ruin her day but also your first date together. Keep the curiosity to yourself and ask her about it when the time is right.

Using an endearment

Most Asian women are conservative, which means they will find you creepy if you start calling them honey, babe, or baby. Just address your date by her first name. You can save the nicknames when you’re both comfortable enough with each other.

Giving her unconscious signs that you’re uninterested

It’s a turn-off for most women to see their date constantly checking their phone. To avoid being a distraction, set your phone to silent mode. Aside from that, make sure to maintain eye contact while she’s talking. She’ll take it as a sign that you’re interested.

Furthermore, don’t just nod and agree to whatever she’s saying. Listen to respond. Engage in a real conversation with her by adding “why” to your questions. This will give more depth to her answers, allowing you to understand more about her life and personality.

Picking the wrong location

Try to be thoughtful by asking your date where she wants to go on your first date. If she lets you decide, ensure you pick the right venue. You can give options to be flexible, like asking her if she prefers an indoor or outdoor setting. Then, choose a quiet and romantic place where you can enjoy the rest of the day.

The first date with an Asian woman can be your ticket to a happy-ever-after, only if you make it right the first time. Stay away from these bad habits and score more dates with her in the future.