Going to an unfamiliar city during the school season

　In a popular drama, a mother cares for her daughter in every way.

　　This daughter, who in reality is a prototype, said, "Mom drew a circle with Shanghai as the center of the circle and Shanghai to Hangzhou as the radius, so that I could not leave the Yangtze River Delta when I enrolled in college. But Mom's own test that year so far away, why can't I go to Beijing?"

　　Parents' reasons are always similar. No matter how convenient the airplane is, how fast the train is, their psychological distance is always stuck on the small matter of mileage. How many kilometers away, how many cities across, and whether or not they have left the country, are all internal roadblocks for them.

　　It's true that what you experience when you're young affects your perception for the rest of your life. For example, my mother, the most impressive is from Henan took a two-day overnight train to arrive in Guangxi, how tiring the journey, is the physical memory of this life is difficult to erase. So she would use this to measure the scope of my departure from home.

　　When she knew that my college entrance exam volunteered to fill in Sichuan, she simply could not tolerate it: the traffic was too inconvenient!

　　So Dad took it back after the volunteer submission and changed it to another university 300 km from home. I studied at this university for 7 years, and they were proud that the volunteer application was successful and they lifted their feet and went there. In fact, they didn't go several times.

　　My cousin didn't make it to Shanghai after all. What she regrets most is that she never left Beijing. After graduating and looking for a job, between a Beijing bank and a flight attendant, she decisively chose the latter. Finally, she could leave home in name only.

　　We, and our parents, grew up in a confrontation and game, and there was no chance to rethink whose choice was better. What is clear is that parents cannot stop their children from leaving home, and even if they hold it down while studying, they still take it in their stride when looking for a job, to break free from the dilemma they could not escape as a teenager.

　　Parents probably do not realize that in fact, the child has been leaving and coming back.

　　The most enviable part of the college was the candidates who came from far away, and the farther away they were, the more mysterious they became. There was a Beijing candidate who was famous at that time, and the most curious thing was that there were so many schools in Beijing, how did you get into Wuhan? Although he still returned to Beijing after graduation, this brief escape was significant.

　　My cousin, who studied in England, returned to a small town in Jiangsu Province two years ago to become an executive, and got married and had children as a matter of course.

　　When he fled to London to study, he also fought a hard battle with his parents. Now the fear of being out of reach and the embarrassment of not being taken care of has finally landed.

　　So, in the matter of "the next generation's view of the city", I plan to do a good psychological construction in advance. The ideal state is that after seeing the world, the child still thinks the city is good and chooses to stay, which I can accept; or thinks Beijing is good, so welcome back.

　　When my daughter was in the third grade, we sent her to Edinburgh, England for two weeks as a student and she loved it. She came back jumping on her feet saying, "I want to study in England!"

　　You haven't tried another city.

　　I just loved Edinburgh.

　　Then at night, it made me want to cry.

　　We tend to have a beautiful imagination about strange cities. It's hard to love the city you live in as if you know it like the back of your hand. This is true for children, not to mention adults.

　　The school season is the beginning of escape. About to arrive in a strange city, not a short stay, if no accident, is solid 18 to 22 years old.

　　Looking back, it really was the best age ever. Take all kinds of transportation, walk into the entrance of the city, eat your first breakfast, adapt to the first night, and the next day you're already breathing the air of the city freely. After graduation, you love it or not, it is all your memories.

　　These memories will always follow you. Wait to really live in many cities before you can see the full picture of these cities. The rain-soaked morning, the tiresome noon, the busy evening, the 12 o'clock bell ringing, the sand of the day finally falling to the ground, the sand of the next day not yet raised.

　　The university will eventually become a backdrop for you too, just like the hometown that you long to escape.

　　When so determined to leave, and so one day have the opportunity to go back, you are busy to find a familiar breakfast, the evening to go about an old place, although long ago changed, you are like the body hair there, still love.