Get Rid of Your Bad Friends

As we grow up it becomes more and more obvious to us that what kind of people we surround ourselves with, significantly can affect how we feel. Friends are usually big parts of our lives, and that means you should really be picky about who you allow into it. It's time to get rid of the bad ones.

You don't owe anyone being friends with them. If someone isn't adding anything to your life, there's no rule that says you have to keep them in it. It's important to pay attention to how people are making you feel. If spending time with someone leaves you feeling drained and annoyed, or provokes other negative feelings, the friendship might not be beneficial for you.

I'm not saying leave someone behind the second something feels off, because life has ups and downs, and you should definitely support your good friends through lower periods. I'm talking about if someone consistently feels like... work. A friendship isn't always easy, but it shouldn't feel like it constantly takes effort. It should feel natural, worth it and fun, and it should make you happy. The people around you really should make you feel good.

Having a good support network and caring people around you is important. We all deal with difficult things every now and then, and those challenges often make it obvious which of your friends are really there for you. It's totally okay to have friends for different purposes, such as some for having fun and others for the deep, meaningful conversations. But make sure that the ones you turn to for support when you need someone to lift you up, are the ones that actually care and will be there for you. Being around people who really don't care and make no attempts to take an interest in your life... it gets old real quick.

I think we've all experienced having a friend that spreads bad vibes and negative energy. It's probably not intentional, but some people have a habit of complaining a lot, generally being negative about things and acting like something's always wrong. It can be very draining to be around people like that, and you're probably better off taking your friendship business elsewhere.

Friendships are mutual. If you find yourself constantly pouring your energy into someone else's life and what they have going on, but receive little to no effort back, I wouldn't deem it healthy. Don't just be a giver. If you feel like someone's just taking what they can get from you but give nothing back, it's time to have a conversation about it. Let them know that you need something in return from your friendship, and that it doesn't feel like a two-way street at the moment. If it's a person you generally enjoy the presence of, I'd give them a chance to correct the balance in your friendship before you end it.

Friendship breakups is something that's generally not talked about that much, but they suck, just like romantic breakups do. People have different ways of ending a friendship, but commonly it's done by slowly letting it fade. All I wanna say is, don't be a meanie. We're all adults here, and letting someone go can be done in a respectful manner. You don't have to try and make them feel bad, just let them know how you feel, and they should accept that. We're not in kindergarten anymore, no one's forcing anyone to be friends, and it's your ultimate choice whether you want someone in your life or not.

Look around you and think whether the people around you actually support you. If you have to question it and search in your brain to remember a time they did have your back or cared about your wellbeing and success, they might not be the kind of person you need. If you actually have to think about it, chances are they're not really very supportive. I'm not saying never ever hang out with them, but it's probably best not to spend time with them by yourself. Negative people can drag you down, so it's best to see them as part of a group, and not just the two of you.

Time is a luxury resource that we can't produce ourselves, so we need to ration it carefully. That means not spending it with people who don't bring you joy or you don't have a real connection with. Life is life, and stuff is gonna happen. You need to make sure the people you have around you are ones that can carry you through bad times, and that you can have fun with during the good ones. People who are with you through dark times are the kind of people that will make your life better. Anyone who doesn't make you happy should be cut out of it. Simple as that.

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