Friends

I used to love the comedy series HOW I MET YOUR MOTHER. In the series, I loved the way all of the friends were different yet they were always together with one another even with relationship goals. A lot of people take friendship issues too seriously. Friendship comes in very many ways. Some friends are there for a lifetime, they never leave your side and always watch your back even when they don’t see you for long. They defend your every move and when someone tries to put you down, they always defend you even in your absence. These friends are more like family because they have been around since childhood. People never know how to tell you apart from them. These are the best friends that anyone can ever think of. They are few in nature and they are precious if you have such friends, no matter what happens never give them away to any circumstance or occurrence.

Then there are the one-sided friends. They are only with you because of their selfish nature. They only want to benefit from you and bring nothing else to the relationship other than fake compliments, praises, and flirters. They are with you because they love your money, connections, and your generosity. To them, you are a tool for satisfying their ego. They always want to be seen with you because it builds up their personalities. Ever heard of the saying life is full of ups and downs? They are with you during your ups. Nothing lasts forever and situations change in life. When they realize some time later that your wealth and connections are gone and they can never benefit from you, they will take off like an antelope avoiding being eaten by a lion in the jungle. They will begin bad-mouthing you about how you wasted your wealth away and never wanted to listen to their advice because you were blinded by the money. They will create numerous rumors about you and will get excited when they hear negative vibes about you. You need to be wary of such friends and for you to weed them out earlier pretend that you are broke and their true nature will blast out. After that, you can avoid them like plaque.

There are friends with whom you have moments as friends and then you disappear for some time without getting in touch. For years, months, and even weeks you never get to see them. The beauty is that when you meet again it’s like you were never apart. You become in touch again and the friendship is like you saw each other yesterday. The connection is real and heavy and you get along and catch up with one another on how life has been ever since you saw each other. You again part ways promising to keep in touch but as soon as they leave everyone like completely forgets about the other. When you meet again after some time, it kicks in again. You are back to where you were when you last met. Such friends are healthy friends because time and space don’t kill the friendship, only pause it. These are the kinds of friends that we always need in our lives because they get us to do a recap of our lives just by sitting and chatting away while bonding with them.

There are temporary friends. These are just friends that you chat with for the convenience of time. These are the local friends whom you can share with things like politics, religion, and human day-to-day life activities. These friends are temporary because they change over time. These friends are seasonal and when you are not in touch with them you never even feel it. These friends are there for a transitional period in life. When you grow past them, you always feel like being close to them is not a must. Some of them always feel like you have ignored them but the truth is they were your friends for a moment and the moment just went past. If you are not careful with them after you break ties they can become enemies. When they see you, they always feel like you have ignored them and can always tell others that you have grown into a snob. The truth is that it is not always about you but it’s always about them not realizing that their friendship was seasonal.

There are a group of friends that you meet and blend with without getting to know their names. By the time you get to ask them their names, you have done a thousand and one things with them already. The funny part of it is always that is the same reaction towards you from your newfound friend. They usually blend into our routines and lives and they are fun to be around. The energy around them is fulfilling and rewarding. These are the kinds of friends that you would love to meet whenever you have had a bad day and need to relieve stress. These friends are always adventurous and make you feel youthful and happy most of the time. These friends make you feel free with them and in a position to talk about anything in your life with them. Soon you realize that you share some friends with them and the best part is that these friends are always the same with them adding more energy to the group when you are all together. You joke and laugh with them freely more than anyone and this is the best way to forget about the normal tough times that people face in life.