Forgiveness

We tell people to forgive others. But why dont we take our own advice? Its easy to say to someone else and we say it to ourselves but we dont follow the advice either.

Forgiveness is the hardest thing that there is to do. Algebra, English, things like that are stuff people say is hard to do but forgiveness takes the cake. There are things in this world that people say are unforgivable, myself included because it’s stuff that has hurt you to your very core. I can attest to that.

I’m speaking on the basic concept. There are some issues we should forgive others about, but we hold on to it instead. I’m no saint, I’ve done it myself. When you have simple hatred for someone, you are hurting yourself. I say that because it’s taking away from your time, even your health, because you are focused on this all the time. It’s all you talk about; all you think about. Ways to get back at this person. Funny thing is, that person knows when they have got you right where they want you, especially if you show it.

If you have a situation that occurs between you and another person, give them the opposite reaction. Although your blood may be boiling and you want to cuss them out and “call them everything but their name,” don’t do it. It is a waste of time. Don’t stand there and let resentment build up. Walk away. At times you will think in your mind: if she/he doesn’t get out of my face. You can always get someone out of your face without hitting them. Walk away. You’ll get your blessing because you were the bigger person.

Truth be told, we want to fight just because we think it will relieve what we feel at that moment. But, then what? You fought somebody. People saw you. You thought it was a relief when really, you put on a big show by showing just how quick you can get out of character and how quick you are to “lay down your religion”. People are not laughing with you; they are laughing at you.

Forgetting. That’s our biggest issue. We want to hold on to something that might have happened so long ago, we shouldn’t even remember it. I’m not talking about experiences that hurt us or caused us mental pain. I’m talking about things that we should have let go of back then that we still hold on to today. There are some people in their 80’s or less, holding on to something that happened 20 years ago between them and someone they aren’t friends with anymore or a family member. That is not right at all. People hurt each other’s feelings every day. I’m a young woman and I get my feelings hurt all the time but I’m not going to hold anything over someone’s head or hold on to something that I feel I should let go of.

It doesn’t matter if it was a fight, somebody talked about you, whatever the case may be. Learn to forgive. People carry things to their grave all because they didn’t forgive that person. People stay mad at one another and when the person dies, that other person feels guilty because they never forgave that person, said I’m sorry or anything. People can say they don’t feel guilty but that is pride talking. When the person is in the casket, it’s too late.

To conclude I say this: A white dove is a signal of purity and love. Love yourself, each other, and most of all, honor the man up above.