F%ck The One.

Dating is hard. There is a lot of trial and error involved. You'll get your heartbroken a few times before you get it right. To all those dating and trying to find the right person: Guess what? The one doesn't exist. What! You mean to tell me that there isn't just one person for me? All that shit I was taught as a child is false? Basically. How can I prove this to you? Well keep reading and I will.

Think of all the people you meet in your daily life, think of all the things you like about them. Think of the connections you make both romantic and platonic. Think of all the memories you have with these people. Think of all the times you needed one of these people and they were there for you no questions asked.

Think of how much love you recieved from these people over the years. Think of how much love you've given these people all these years. Have you ever thought about that? Have you ever thought that if you smashed all these people together you'd have the perfect life partner? If you've ever thought that then you understand when I say the "One" the doesn't exist. because there really isn't the one. And here's why.

See if the "One" existed you wouldn't have these thoughts of smushing people together to create the perfect person. Because the perfect person would exist. See nobody is "perfect" for you. So that's why finding the "One" is a myth. You can't find a person whose going to check every single thing on your list. You may find someone who checks off some of them but no two people are 100% perfect for each other. It's simply not possible. We're all different and we all have different opinions and beliefs.

What can you do instead of trying to find the "One" You can focus on finding good people in your life. You can focus on finding great friends and loving them for who they are. You can focus on making solid connections and not worrying about finding the "one" Because as I said earlier you're not going to find it. I'm sorry. You may find about 10 people that you could see spending life with. You may also find that if you smushed all your friends together you'll have the perfect person. As I said earlier you really can't find the perfect person.

Am I telling you to give up on love? No. Am I telling you that you'll be single forever? No. I'm not saying that at all. I'm saying that the belief that we've been conditioned to have of only finding one person is complete crap. It's also unrealistic. You have to be realistic. You have to understand that there is no such thing as the one.

You may find you have multiple soulmates. They may come in the form of a friend or a dog even. Have you ever thought of that? Have you ever thought that to yourself? You can't expect someone to fill all your needs. This is a good time to find out what you will not settle for and what you will settle for. You certainly shouldn't settle for shit. You should find a good person who loves you and who understands you well enough. But I'm sorry to tell you that the prince charming or princess you were hoping for doesn't exist and never will. That one person you were hoping to find isn't there. I'm sorry to ruin this for you but I wanted to be honest.