Experiencing A Feeling

Catch that moment when the feeling rises.

No matter how fleeting just hold on to it and enter it

Take it to a place that is quiet and private calming within and without and ask yourself if the emotion is yours or are you feeling it for someone else. inevitably, it's all yours. If you're feeling it for someone else, that's just a trigger for something deeper within you, wanting to emerge

If you have any meditation tools and you need them to remain with the moment; invoke them to centre yourself

You might want to write it down and you might also want to set a timer if you have a pressing appointment later. We don't all have the luxury of having all the free time in the world.

Breathe, breathe, breathe; something so easy to forget even when meditating

Especially if it becomes intense and overwhelming

Catch yourself trying to avoid this feeling. Come back to it, come back. Grieve if you must. Let it wash over you and as you notice thoughts trying to distract you to avoid going there, acknowledge them and keep coming back to the feeling and where in your body it is that you're experiencing it. Certain parts of the body hold specific emotions. There are some general cues for this, but by going quieter, you'll discover your own unique spots.

Have a cushion nearby. if it's grief, any pain or fear, embrace the cushion for comfort. For anger, leave it on the ground and beat it. when you're done, throw it away.

Things feel a lot lighter after a good weep. You're alone! You can groan and moan. You can roar or whisper it away. You can be silent also unless your identified spot feels tight and uncomfortably holding it in.

If you don't have the luxury of being alone and don't want the neighbours to think that you're having a melt down or being attacked, here are some tips.

Go hiking if it's safe. When you've reached a high point, stand there and let it.

Go for a swim. The ocean is great! It's expansive and typifies and embodies infinity and for some mimics the womb. Swim around for a bit. Then take a deep breath and go under the surface holding in the air and then roar, as loudly as you can and if your body wants to let it thrash around in the water. Your body is buoyant in water, so you can't hurt yourself.

Go for a drive, turn the music volume up. Close the windows and let it out. You might want plan this by choosing a quiet road or busy highway, where the traffic moves freely and unhindered by needing to 'stop and go'. Once you start screaming , you probably won't want to reach a traffic light alongside another commuter mid roar. On the other hand, they might notice you and you just don't care because it's unlikely that you're going to see them again. If you feel embarrassed, well it's just another emotion to experience. Turn the volume up and pretend you're singing along and turn at the next intersection.

Finally if you chose meditation to experience your feelings. To come around, sit up, take a few deep breaths and slowly open your eyes. Come standing when you're ready and drink a glass of water.

If you're comfortable with the mood you're in, go about your chores and stay within this centeredness. If you have a prearranged appointment you have to attend, give your body a good shake or choose a toon that moves you to dance. take a quick shower and have a cup of tea and put your outdoor make up on and choosse your favourite coloured garment .