"Everyone Is Replaceable"

All our lives we are told this ridiculous lie that anyone and everyone is replaceable, I don’t know about you, but I have never once believed it. Sure, an employer can find a different employee, they maybe better than you they may not be, but they cannot replace the personal touches and atmosphere you carry with you. Ex-friends can get new friends, but they can’t replace the happiness you brought to their life, they can’t replace the memories you have imprinted on them. You may feel replaced, they may feel like the hole you left has been filled but there will always be that distant longing for your little quirks.

there are many people who cannot be replaced no matter what and they don’t leave behind a small hole or a distance longing for them. Family can never be replaced, you can disown them, but they are still family. You can have two sets of parents but that doesn’t mean a stepmother can replace a real mother, a stepfather cannot replace a real father. This doesn’t mean they are irrelevant; they still bring some extra qualities to your life. if you have two sets of parents you’re just a bit more luckier, or at least this is how I feel I understand not everyone’s experiences are the same. But I feel lucky to have two extra parents who tell me they are proud to be able to call me their child also.

Some people are lucky enough to realise before its too late that people are irreplaceable but sometimes you don’t understand until they are gone. It’s a heart breaking experience to go through, having someone pass away and only then realising just what they brought to your life. whether it be just a smile or the ability to brighten your entire mood. It’s really disappointing to know we have this tendency to take people for granted, to overlook the quality of someone’s existence in our lives.

I think it’s an extremely painful subject to approach. We have no idea how much time we miss with people until we can no longer make up for lost opportunities with them. I myself am guilty of this, you just don’t realise how quickly the clock is clicking down. We all have lives to live and we don’t realise how busy we get or maybe we do. Sometimes we use our busy schedules as an excuse to not see people and that is wrong of us. We should be making every moment count.

We can think about the many happy memories people leave with us, but could you imagine all the other valuable memories and life lessons we missed out on. Everyone you come into contact with all have an impact on your life and personality. When you try to replace someone, you don’t realise that you are ultimately trying to replace a piece of yourself. Before you know it you’ve turned into someone who you don’t recognise, someone you don’t even like.

I’ll admit sometimes people need to be taken out of your life but that doesn’t mean they aren’t special to someone else or that they didn’t bring something good to your life. I know change can be hard, but I think we all need to start making a change to stop trying to replace people, to stop shutting people down and telling them they can be replaced. All we are doing is hurting our selves and them, we are just adding to the destruction of life.