Envy, How to Get Rid of It in Just 5 Steps

Does it happen that your heart is pounding at the sight of images? Sometimes you shed tears when you see someone with an enviable figure, well-sculpted, while you with all the effort, even after a drastic diet with few calories and carbohydrates do not look as good.

Or someone doesn't go home after a hard day's work, but to a party with friends or a date with a loved one, and you have a choice between the kitchen, a series, to keep an eye on the phone and then go alone to sleep. It's offensive, isn't it?

In such moments, you feel overwhelmed by a feeling of pity for yourself. And you want an equally fulfilling life. Then you realize that envy is not the best feeling, and then it starts to grind you down. You start condemning yourself for it. But it is not so easy to give up envy by a simple effort of the will. It's like an elephant, don't think about it and you'll remember it all day long.

Envy has many unpleasant effects. Here are just a few:

• Increased stress level

• Dissatisfaction with yourself and your life

• Bad mood

• Reducing work capacity

• Enthusiasm and negative outlook on life

• Insomnia, anxiety, nervousness

But these too are sufficient motivation to start the fight against the destructive feeling. Let's see what we can do.

• Do not condemn yourself and do not avoid the feeling of envy

Envy is a very strong feeling with a great energy load. In time, you will learn to direct this energy to peaceful purposes. Finding the feeling of envy is the first step towards transformation into good. So you envy. Try this feeling to its fullest. Now you are ready to take the next step.

Understand what feelings you would like to experience

When your gaze clings to something, when you have a deep inner feeling of envy, it does not signal to you the need for a thing, a journey, or the need to be in good physical condition. It is a sign that you feel the need to experience certain emotions and feelings.

Behind the desire to have a beautiful body is the need to have more self-confidence, to accept yourself as you are.

The desire to achieve certain performances in your activity hides the need for self-realization, recognition from those around you, the need for a sense of self-esteem, pride in yourself

Behind the desire to have a car lies the need for stability, protection, joy, which material well-being offers you.

You do not lack certain things, but concrete emotions. So, the next step is to ask yourself: What feelings would I like to have?

What can I do about it right now?

Once you realize that you feel the need to try a certain feeling, think about what you can do right now. You have many possibilities and tools at your disposal, to bring you joy, to accept yourself, to have a better attitude towards yourself, to get support.

Do this

As mentioned above, envy is a powerful impetus. Take advantage of the burden of this feeling to take a concrete step. Go and do something right now. Don't think too much and don't try to analyze whether you will succeed or not, don't think about whether you will be able to score a goal or not. He just hits the ball.

Praise yourself

Take a moment to relax and brag about your efforts. For the fact that you are consciously working on your inner processes. Try the feeling of gratitude for the steps taken. And gratitude to those you envied, that is, they helped you to perceive your inner needs, to go after envy, and to climb to another level, to see what you need at this stage of life.

We seldom think about it, but every success is anticipated by a period of overcoming difficulties. True, some may be more successful professionally, but what is the price of their accomplishments, have you ever wondered? Hard work, sacrificing personal life, stress, and overwork. Is it worth being jealous that you don't have them?

Or someone may be behind the wheel of a luxury car, but you never know how much effort lies behind it. We only see the result. Because the credits, the tears, and the work done are not visible. Any success has a hidden side. Think about this next time you look down on someone.