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EXes Always Come Back: How to Get Your Ex to Chase You Again

You thought you were over your ex and had moved on, but lately it seems like they’re everywhere you look

By Jason LayPublished 4 years ago 4 min read

You thought you were over your ex and had moved on, but lately it seems like they’re everywhere you look. You see them at the grocery store, at the gym, at the bookstore, and at happy hour with their new significant other—and suddenly you’re not so sure that you are completely over your relationship after all. Luckily, there are steps you can take to make sure that your ex comes back to you this time around so that once and for all you can move forward with your life instead of constantly looking back in regret.

Approach at your own risk

Your ex broke up with you because he or she wanted a change. However, once your ex has been alone for a while, loneliness can set in and push him or her back into your arms. While no one can force an ex to fall back in love with you, there are ways to encourage that shift. The simplest tactic is finding ways to spend time together on a friendly basis. Even if your relationship ended badly, most people appreciate company from old friends from time to time, so find out if there's anything you can do for your ex that won't seem like a chore.

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Approach if you are on good terms with them

Approach your ex if you are on good terms with them. This way, you will not make any mistakes that could lead to losing them for good. If you want your ex back and have no idea how to go about it, it's always a good idea to write a letter explaining your feelings and send it through mail instead of saying anything over phone or email. When contacting your ex, put yourself in their shoes for a moment. Do they still care about you? Be honest and forthright about what led to the breakup in first place and explain how much better life can be if they get back together with you.

Approach if they miss you but don’t say it out loud

Psychologists have found that saying you’re fine, doing just fine and not missing someone is a dead giveaway of your actual feelings. In other words, if you say you’re OK while in fact missing them like crazy, they will know it. On top of that if they ask how you are doing and you say I’m fine. I don’t miss him/her at all.

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Approach if they are still in love with you

If your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend is still in love with you, he or she will find it very difficult to let go of you. Thus, your first step is determining whether your ex has even moved on in a substantial way. If you think they might be harboring any strong feelings for you (even if it’s just a small hope), try making a move toward rebuilding your relationship and gauge their reaction. If there’s even a sliver of interest on their part, take that as a sign that they are not over you yet and shouldn’t be quite ready to jump into another relationship—and use that piece of information as leverage when making an approach toward getting them back.

Don’t have hope

The first step is a bit backwards; you want your ex back, but you need to make sure they don’t know it. If they know that you want them back, then all of your efforts will probably come to nothing. What you should do is become their best friend again. Once you are their best friend, now tell them how much you love them and miss them. This way, even if they decide not to get back together with you at first, it will be hard for them not to have feelings for you again. If done correctly and at just the right time (during some really emotional point in their life) then your chances of getting your ex back are extremely high! When I say extremely high I mean something like 90% or even higher.

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How to get your ex back when all is lost

If you haven’t heard from your ex in a while, it might be tempting to give up and move on. We know how frustrating it can be when you’re trying to win back an ex. But don’t throw in the towel just yet. Just because things feel hopeless doesn’t mean they are. There are many ways for you and your ex to work through your relationship issues—and get back together if that’s what you want. It may seem like a long shot, but there is always hope! Here are some ideas for getting back with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend again

8 tips for keeping your ex close after getting him or her back

1. Don’t Compare yourself too much to other people. Sometimes, we let exes dictate our feelings of self-worth and allow ourselves to feel insecure about all sorts of things, whether it be about work or relationships in general. Remember that your self-worth is not defined by how many friends you have or how many boyfriends/girlfriends you’ve had in your lifetime. 2. Don’t get jealous easily. If your ex decides he/she wants a little space for some reason, instead of getting mopey and pining away for him/her, try focusing on yourself and what makes you happy.

Getting an ex who has moved on back.

Getting an ex who has moved on back takes time and hard work, but it’s not impossible. The best thing you can do is take all of your frustration out in a healthy way, like exercising or punching a pillow. Then, try to be honest with yourself about where it all went wrong and how you could have avoided that situation from happening. Once you've done that, you'll have a much clearer idea of what's standing in your way—and what obstacles need to be removed for a reunion.

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