Don't Take That Advice

"Questions for your girl/boyfriend: #2. Do you have a job?"

Yeah, that was directly from a popular blog post that made my jaw drop! I sat there in disbelief as I realized this blogger was benefiting from this "advice". Do you have a job shouldn't be a question to ask a significant other, I think most intellectual humans would have asked this, or simply already known, prior to labeling your relationship. Alas, here was this full blog post with even more preposterous questions.

That was my turning point... I couldn't sit back knowing that thousands of individuals were reading posts like that and thinking this was good advice. I couldn't fathom my children aging and possibly reading similar absurdities and applying them to their lives. My skin was crawling with disbelief! So, action had to be taken.

I think I should start with how I stumbled upon the above mentioned post; I was discussing blogging and podcasting with a friend and we both had shared great ideas. So as any good potential writer should do, I started more research. Through popular social media outlets and recommended bloggers, I took an adventure into their worlds of advice. And you can guess it, yes, I was disturbed.

There were many I admired, don't get me wrong. It takes a great level of vulnerability to put any amount of yourself out there on the internet these days. That is one of the reasons I have sat back for as long as I have. Taking time to put your experiences, advice and especially photos into the grasps of people I may never meet... it terrifies me! But the realization that there needed to be a revolution in the blogging world for people truly seeking advice overtook all my fears of potential negative feedback or misconceived perspectives of who I am.

So, welcome! In the nature of being vulnerable, here is a bit about me. My hope is that this will intrigue you enough to come back and see what more I have to share. I am a 32 year old mother, been divorced, broken some hearts, shattered my own and been through hell carving out my true self from layers of a lifetime of poor advice and inherent trauma. I have messed up, cleaned up, overcome and thrived through my own mistakes. Lessons that could have ruined my soul have turned out to only dig my inner roots even deeper into understanding who I am. And through all of that, I have 32 years (almost 33) of experience and enlightenment that I hope you find useful. And if not, perhaps you can find humor in my life- the good and the bad!

I will never promise to be a professional or to have all the right answers or guidance. I can promise to be authentic and transparent with every word. I may not be for you but perhaps I can help someone else. I can also promise to help bring light and humor in this wild space we take up.

I hope you enjoy the ride. Buckle up and lets transform your life together! My next post is already in the works...