Don't let "sorry" block the way forward

Once or twice is okay, the most fear is to attract unnecessary trouble, the thick-skinned people on, then wanting to get rid of fear is very troublesome.

Rather than let "embarrassed" drag their feet, why not learn to be a little thick-skinned, and refuse to say no to those things they do not want to say yes to so that some people do not take advantage of the inch?

Be a little thick-skinned, know how to bravely say "no", life will not be everywhere restricted.

1. Too embarrassed to refuse, suffering is their own

My friend bought a new car for the convenience of work and happened to meet a colleague who lived nearby on the way to work, so he let the other side take a ride.

I thought the follow-up will not have any interactions, which had thought that colleagues rub the car and rub addiction, repeatedly finding the door to rub the car.

Friends do not want to agree and are embarrassed to refuse, can only force themselves to endure, and finally can not bear to find an excuse to refuse.

I did not expect to make the effort to refuse, I heard the car rubbing colleagues behind their backs badmouthing "this guy is petty, live nearby, by the way, help, are not willing to help."

Friends aggravated themselves to help others, but what they got is someone else's backhanded rake, "help" as a matter of course.

It is then realized that because of embarrassment to refuse others and condescend to themselves, is in their future to plant time bombs, and accidentally will attract "an inch of the white wolf".

It is better to refuse decisively from the beginning to avoid "trouble" focus on your own business, and strive for a better you.

2. Sorry to fight, what you miss is the opportunity

When I read the fable "Waiting for the Rabbit", I felt that it was foolish to treat a lucky coincidence as an "opportunity" and that people who do not know how to work hard are not waiting for opportunities, but degradation.

You can't get a chance by daydreaming all day long. Only by working hard to make yourself better can you get a chance to succeed.

However, although the effort to make yourself better can get the opportunity, being embarrassed to fight, you will let yourself miss the opportunity.

You should know that the opportunity is encountered once less than once, do not know how to take the initiative to fight for people, and can only watch the opportunity to leave again and again.

Do not think that you can wait for the opportunity, you do not know how to fight, naturally, you can only be handed over to others, again and again not to fight, in exchange for perhaps the life of the section backward.

Because of a moment of "embarrassment", lose the opportunity to rub your hands, at first may not feel how, but over time, sooner or later will regret it.

Instead of letting yourself miss opportunities because you are too embarrassed to fight, why not take the first step to fight for the opportunities you want, even if you lose in the end, at least with no regrets?

Only strive for opportunities to make yourself better.

3. embarrassed of trouble, estranged is the relationship

People are independent individuals, but can not be separated from the life of the group, and inevitably have to deal with others.

Some people avoid unnecessary trouble and think they do not trouble others, others will not trouble themselves, but do not think that the mutual trouble is added to each other's sense of alienation.

The number of times they do not deal with each other, and over time they become strangers.

Between friends, an occasional favor is nothing.

Some relationships, are "you help me, I help you" out.

Sometimes, for their difficult problems, for others is just a handful.

So, when you encounter trouble, don't be ashamed to ask your friends for help.

Now you help me, tomorrow I help you, help each other, to make progress together.

No one can ever ask for help, there will always be one or two things that need to bother others.

There is no need to be embarrassed to trouble friends, no one wants to trouble people as a last resort, but the trouble still has to be trouble.

The occasional trouble may enhance the feelings each other