Don’t Blame the Stone You Stumbled Upon

"By stopping blaming the stone you stepped on, you will learn to walk," said Sara Bueno.

Do you find yourself in those words? Maybe something happened to you earlier, which still doesn't go out of your head and you don't know how to get out of this vicious circle. Or it seems that everything around him is trying to get you back to him.

When things do not go according to plan, an enormous shadow of guilt can manifest itself in one of the following forms: you blame yourself and bear the burden of the consequences, you blame other people or you blame the situation.

And although we all usually resort to the latter, it is very important to remember that none of them will give you new knowledge or opportunities for personal growth.

Finding the culprit won't help

Life will never be as friendly as you would like it to be. There is always injustice in the world that we, in our opinion, do not deserve and that we do not expect. That's why it's so easy to understand why people are being widely accused.

"Almost every misfortune in life is due to your tendency to blame someone else," said Brian Tracy.

If there is an obstacle in your way, you tend to curse this obstacle, which prevents you from advancing or the person who caused this obstacle to appear. Blaming someone or something is much easier, but by no means easier than stepping forward and finding a solution. But no, you spend your time looking for the person responsible for the problem and not finding a way to solve it.

Finding the culprit won't help. He will not repair the damage but will blindfold you with a black ribbon.

Focus on the problem and determine the cause

Even if you think you have someone to blame, it still doesn't indicate the path you should take in order not to get stuck in your current position. The most effective way to take advantage of life's difficulties is to understand where they come from.

"It's very important to stop blaming someone else for your mistakes and instead try to understand what caused them," Akio Morita said.

Try to focus on what happened to you. Be brave enough to get to the root of your suffering and you will understand how to survive. You are stronger than the obstacle in your way and life has the potential to make you much stronger than any obstacle that limits you.

If you breathe, then you have time

Whatever happens, open your eyes and let your emotions go. As long as you breathe, you have time. It's just another problem, another life experience, another life lesson.

Your movement involves periodic falls. Sometimes people fall because they have to learn something. In some cases, this is generally the only option to learn something new. In addition, not all obstacles are negative. It also happens that they carry very informative information.

It is very important to listen to what this obstacle tells you while avoiding carrying this weight, especially since no one needs such energy expenditure. The things you resist don't go anywhere, but you don't want your torment to last forever.

"Do not evaluate a person's mind according to the condition of his shoes", - Andre Breton.

In other words, your shoes may go a long way, and the places they were in may leave a mark, but there's no room for that in your heart.

It needs a filter that allows only good things, while it blocks everything that wastes your energy and harms your physical and spiritual health.

As a famous song well states "Don't hate the player, hate the game!".