I went through all kinds of craziness from the very beginning to the very end of 2019. It started off good, as I was exploring a new relationship, making decent money, my children were happy, my savings looked nice, and I was finally rebuilding from my children’s father’s destruction of what I used to call my life.
That man has caused me more destruction in the very short 5 years that I've known him then I'd ever anticipated. I don’t know how after so many years of dodging these f*ck boys, I chose the biggest F*CK boy I ever came across! Something is seriously wrong with me! Don’t judge me tho, cause i’m working on it! I've lived and I've learned. The lessons cost me so much, but I have to live with that, and i'm doing the best that I can.
By the time February hit, the relationship that I was exploring completely imploded, which I deserved, but we’ll talk about that another day. However, that breakup did so much to my emotional state, and for multiple reasons. I completely spun into a 3 week depression and had daily anxiety attacks, multiple times, in a row…. All night and all day. It was bad for me…
Long story short, that lead me to having an epiphany that I needed to find my father. I clearly have not healed and I need to address that the best way I know how. The absence of a father alone can really destroy a woman. So I went on a search for him, and found him. For 3 weeks, I enjoyed talking to him, knowing what he looks like, learning his personality.. Really getting a chance to bond, naturally...
...Then BAM!!! I find myself in Polk County Jail!
What I have gone through before that point did not compare to what I was facing. Please know that when I say that, I am letting you know that I have gone through so many traumas, and so many more disappointments and I was still not prepared for what I was facing. I had fought so many demons... my personal demons and the demons inherited from others. I had been labeled many times by people that do not know me. I had been slandered by people that do. I had been hurt by those that I love, and let down by those that said they loved me. I had survived an array of childhood traumas and I was misunderstood by most. I knew that I was a work in progress, and I enjoyed the journey. I was proud of who I was as a person, regardless of any of the circumstances that I had faced. My attitude needed work, but my heart was pure... usually. March 28th, 2019 was the day that I changed forever, probably not in the most…. positive way.
That day plays in my head on repeat, and there is nothing that I can do about it. I thought I had experienced trauma, but nothing that I had experienced prepared me for that day; nor the events following. All the way through Dec 30, 2019, I went through the absolute most agonizing and traumatizing experiences. I'm going to share that with you.
You can look forward to these upcoming diary entries!
Feb 23
“So I just talked to Twin and I swear every single time I have a conversation with that man I want more. Something about that man drives me wild! He is so sexy and so fun to talk to. He brings me out of my shell and it turns me on in a way only he can.”
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“Im like oh shit. I den sat up and traded nudes with this man and den had phone sex with him back in the day… Now he might be my cousin… WTF?! #StoryOfMyLife !”
Feb 24
“So Twin just called me to tell me that Ray brother said that I am Ray's daughter, and everyone in the hood knows it. He said everyone has been waiting for me to reach out and asked if he could call me. I told Twin HELL YEA, lol.. Set that up!”
Mar 1
“WOW! Although I don't know if Lionell is my father or not, I felt super weird meeting him in person. He is very tall and very light skinned, but I can see a resemblance. I cant say I felt a connection, i'll just say that I wouldn’t be surprised if he was my father. “
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Anony Elle
I am Anony Elle, short for Anonymous Love ❤️
Ive been through so much in life & its good to have a platform to share it!
The stories that I post are true stories from my life, & the lives of other DV survivors. I hope you enjoy the read! 💋
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Heeeyyyyy everybody, my name is Anony Elle! #AnonymousLove #ChillinWitNoMakeUpOn I am 31 years old and I have 2 beautiful little boys; they are 4 & 5 years old (11 months apart). I am from the west side of Detroit, Michigan (7 Mile all day) but was born in North Carolina. I’ve lived in so many places in my 31 years, and that started when I was a child. My mom moved so much that I went to over 10 schools before graduating high school, and moving around continued into my adulthood. So much so that a few people in my family call me a gypsy; which I don’t necessarily disagree with. I have lived in Michigan, Indiana, Illinois, Tennessee, Georgia, and Florida.... Oh yea, even North Carolina. There’s no telling where I'll move to next! I have experienced so much in my life, and early, so I have always known that I would share my story.
By Anony Elle5 years ago in Humans
Try an ‘Airport Divorce’ if You Want to Stay a Happy Couple
Traveling together can be exciting, but for many couples, it’s also a source of stress. From missed flights to lost luggage, delays, and cramped airport lounges, the pressure can turn even the strongest relationships into a battleground. That’s where the concept of the “airport divorce” comes in — a simple, intentional separation at the airport that could help couples stay happy, even when traveling together. What Is an Airport Divorce? The term may sound dramatic, but it’s far from it. An airport divorce doesn’t mean ending a marriage; rather, it’s a playful way of describing a temporary, intentional separation at the airport before traveling. The idea is simple: couples part ways at the terminal — or even just for a few hours during the check-in and security process — to avoid unnecessary stress, conflict, or micro-arguments during the travel experience. In essence, it’s about creating a mental and emotional buffer that allows both partners to decompress, reset, and rejoin each other in a better frame of mind once the journey begins. Why Travel Can Strain Relationships Even couples who usually get along well can experience friction while traveling. Common sources of tension include: Planning disagreements: Who packs what? Who decides the itinerary? Time pressure: Airports are stressful, and missed flights can create anxiety. Financial concerns: Travel expenses often spark arguments, from tickets to meals and souvenirs. Decision fatigue: Constantly choosing where to eat, what to see, or which seat to take can wear anyone down. Studies show that couples under stress during travel are more likely to argue and feel frustrated, which can cast a shadow over the entire trip. How an Airport Divorce Helps The airport divorce works as a preventive strategy. By giving each partner a small window of personal space before embarking, couples can: Reduce pre-flight tension: Instead of rushing together, each partner focuses on their own checklist and responsibilities. Reset emotions: Briefly stepping apart allows individuals to breathe and regain perspective, avoiding minor conflicts. Enhance appreciation: Separating temporarily can make reunions at the gate or on the plane feel more rewarding. Encourage autonomy: Each person manages part of the travel process, reducing dependency-related stress. The result? Couples arrive at their destination calmer, happier, and ready to enjoy the trip together. Implementing an Airport Divorce Here’s how couples can try an airport divorce effectively: Agree in advance: Discuss the concept before your trip so both partners understand the goal. Set clear boundaries: Decide how long you’ll be apart at the airport and where you’ll meet afterward. Use technology wisely: Stay connected via text or calls, but avoid excessive check-ins that undermine the separation. Focus on your own tasks: Whether it’s checking bags, grabbing coffee, or passing security, use the time constructively. The key is to treat the airport divorce as a lighthearted, intentional pause, not a source of tension. Psychological Benefits Psychologists highlight several benefits to this approach: Reduces conflict triggers: A few minutes of separation helps prevent arguments over minor travel annoyances. Increases patience and tolerance: Giving each other space fosters empathy and understanding. Improves emotional regulation: Partners can manage stress individually, rather than projecting frustration onto one another. Strengthens the relationship: Short periods of intentional distance can make couples appreciate each other more, promoting long-term harmony. In essence, a small act of separation can lead to big emotional gains. When It Works Best Airport divorces aren’t just for long-haul flights or business travel. They work best in situations like: Family trips: Avoid friction when traveling with kids or in large groups. High-stress journeys: International flights, early-morning departures, or layovers. Busy travel seasons: Holidays and peak vacation times when airports are crowded. Even couples who normally travel well together can benefit from this technique when the environment is especially hectic. Beyond Airports: Applying the Concept in Daily Life Interestingly, the airport divorce concept can extend beyond travel. Couples can benefit from brief, intentional separations in everyday life: Taking short solo walks after a disagreement Spending a few hours pursuing hobbies independently Scheduling personal downtime to decompress after work or family obligations The principle remains the same: space fosters perspective, calm, and appreciation, improving relationship satisfaction. A Fun, Modern Relationship Hack While the term “airport divorce” might raise eyebrows, many couples report that it’s a fun and surprisingly effective strategy. Social media and relationship blogs are filled with anecdotes of couples who now approach travel with humor, rather than stress, thanks to this simple technique. By reframing temporary separation as a tool for connection rather than division, couples can turn potentially tense travel moments into opportunities for bonding. Conclusion Traveling together doesn’t have to be a test of patience and endurance. By embracing the idea of an airport divorce, couples can reduce stress, prevent arguments, and arrive at their destinations calmer and happier. It’s a small, intentional act that protects the relationship, improves emotional regulation, and creates a more enjoyable travel experience. For anyone who dreads the stress of airports, security lines, and long flights, this quirky, modern relationship hack might be the key to staying a happy couple on the road — and in life.
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